Was dating this girl for 6 months, there was a huge age gap so there were some challenges but ultimately we enjoyed eachother. Anyways, almost a month ago we went out for her birthday and stayed at a hotel with a group of her friends. She started to disrespect me in front of her friends cause she was in distress and I offered to take her to the side and talk about it but she refused. Later that night I got really intoxicated and she was annoyed, we get to the club and I don't remember the whole situation however I remember her getting into my space (when your drunk you get very sensitive on personal space) and I shoved her face with my hand, she told everyone I "hit" her and got tossed out of the club. Her friends kept telling her how abusive I am and that I "probably beat women". Yes, I shouldn't have put my hand on her and I apologize for that but for being labeled as a "beater" is way out of line.
Anyways we talked about it and moved on from the situation. Her friends however kept coaching her to see signs of me being "abusive". Two weeks ago (the breakup), she asked me an insecure question and I made a joke about it, she didn't like it an started to become stubborn by rolling over in bed towards the wall, i responded with tickling on the side and how I was joking. She threw an elbow and it hit me in the nose. I was angry and said some harshful words that made her feel unsafe and abusive with my tone. She tried to test me to see if I was abusive by asking me if I was going to hit her, I told her she was crazy and got up and left. She told me that we were done and was afraid i might hit her one day.
I mailed back her stuff and I respectfully told her that this relationship was not working for the both of us, we co-created a toxic relationship and I take full responsibility for my part. I apologized for the things I did and she didn't want to hear it. After a week passed, i asked if she got her stuff in the mail cause the post office told me it was lost lol. She got her stuff and I offered by planting the friendship seed cause before this incident we were awesome but she declined. i feel those friends of hers really drilled her about me and yes she should be standing up for us.
Anyways its been a week since we last spoke and recently I noticed she blocked me on snapchat (immature move) but not on facebook (weird). I enrolled into anger management class cause i've got quite a temper. I think the best move is NC, 30 days?
Anyways we talked about it and moved on from the situation. Her friends however kept coaching her to see signs of me being "abusive". Two weeks ago (the breakup), she asked me an insecure question and I made a joke about it, she didn't like it an started to become stubborn by rolling over in bed towards the wall, i responded with tickling on the side and how I was joking. She threw an elbow and it hit me in the nose. I was angry and said some harshful words that made her feel unsafe and abusive with my tone. She tried to test me to see if I was abusive by asking me if I was going to hit her, I told her she was crazy and got up and left. She told me that we were done and was afraid i might hit her one day.
I mailed back her stuff and I respectfully told her that this relationship was not working for the both of us, we co-created a toxic relationship and I take full responsibility for my part. I apologized for the things I did and she didn't want to hear it. After a week passed, i asked if she got her stuff in the mail cause the post office told me it was lost lol. She got her stuff and I offered by planting the friendship seed cause before this incident we were awesome but she declined. i feel those friends of hers really drilled her about me and yes she should be standing up for us.
Anyways its been a week since we last spoke and recently I noticed she blocked me on snapchat (immature move) but not on facebook (weird). I enrolled into anger management class cause i've got quite a temper. I think the best move is NC, 30 days?
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