"That could be your wife"

[rushing dude 123]

This simple quote is something you should always remember when you ever get anxiety in making the close or even doing the approach. Me and my friend live by this, when ever any of us are in doubt we will always repeat that line to eachother. It's probably been the most motivating line that has made me approach every single time for one simple reason.

When you say this line and you're looking at that girl, imagine that this girl could be the girl that you could end up marrying in 5 years, having kids with, having a house with, laughing and smiling with, this girl could be the girl of your dreams and there is no one in the world that compares to her. After you have imagined all the possibilities of your future and that just because you did this simple approach this all happened, pretend to look back in time to the NOW, Right at this moment. Now can you seriously let this girl pass you by, ur kids, ur wife and ur house with your family sitting by the fire will never happen.

With every step or every second in that moment imagine all that stuff getting taken from the future you. Imagine them all looking at you as their father and husband to do something, to be a man and reclaim what is RIGHTFULLY YOURS!!!!. Can you actually let your possible future wife out of your life and allow some other guy to take your wife and family, WHAT KIND OF MAN ARE YOU!!!!

Now when i say imagine all these things and how great she could possibly be, this dosn't mean kiss her ass and put her on a pedestal. All it means is, just remember that it is a possibility and she could very well actually end up being your wife...you never know... and the reason your approaching her is to find out if this time it is true. Because one time it will be and when that time comes are you going to let your wife and future walk out of that door because you wasn't man enough to be there for her.

So when ever you are doubting about approaching a girl, think about all the possibilities and what your future family are expecting and counting on you to do at this moment and think to yourself.....

That could be my WIFE

Edit.....

or Girlfriend
or ****buddy
or One night stand

^ Is that better guys haha, I am sure this hits everyone now.

 

[betheman]

This simple quote is something you should always remember when you ever get anxiety in making the close or even doing the approach. Me and my friend live by this, when ever any of us are in doubt we will always repeat that line to eachother. It's probably been the most motivating line that has made me approach every single time for one simple reason.

When you say this line and you're looking at that girl, imagine that this girl could be the girl that you could end up marrying in 5 years, having kids with, having a house with, laughing and smiling with, this girl could be the girl of your dreams and there is no one in the world that compares to her. After you have imagined all the possibilities of your future and that just because you did this simple approach this all happened, pretend to look back in time to the NOW, Right at this moment. Now can you seriously let this girl pass you by, ur kids, ur wife and ur house with your family sitting by the fire will never happen.

With every step or every second in that moment imagine all that stuff getting taken from the future you. Imagine them all looking at you as their father and husband to do something, to be a man and reclaim what is RIGHTFULLY YOURS!!!!. Can you actually let your possible future wife out of your life and allow some other guy to take your wife and family, WHAT KIND OF MAN ARE YOU!!!!

Now when i say imagine all these things and how great she could possibly be, this dosn't mean kiss her ass and put her on a pedestal. All it means is, just remember that it is a possibility and she could very well actually end up being your wife...you never know... and the reason your approaching her is to find out if this time it is true. Because one time it will be and when that time comes are you going to let your wife and future walk out of that door because you wasn't man enough to be there for her.

So when ever you are doubting about approaching a girl, think about all the possibilities and what your future family are expecting and counting on you to do at this moment and think to yourself.....

That could be my WIFE

could also be the woman who rapes you, emotionally, financially, gets the cops on you, ruins your life, has the kids you love and prevents you seeing them?
just a diff view

 

[BigCat]

Its also a possibility your "wife" might get fat, ugly, old with bee strings in her arms and might divorce you, take half your income, your house, your kids, your soul and behave in a manner towards you like a stranger on the street. 50% chance in fact and of the 50% of marriages than don't end in divorce, theres no way all of those are happy marriages. Yes that woman could be your wife or she could be someone elses. She could be someone elses and that someone could lose everything while you remain single and have any woman you want whenever you want. Be your own man who plays by his own rules, not a man bound by a contract piece of paper that could very likely sign your life away.

 

[Iceberg]

I agree with the other guys. You're putting way too much stock in having a wife. I'm sure one day I'll get married....but I'm going into it kicking and screaming.

And also, if any of these guys adhere to this way of thinking, they'd be putting way too much stock into each individual pickup.

I know what you're TRYING to say, which is: "Seize the moment. You never know how important this could be." But the whole "wife" thing throws off the message.

 

[rushing dude 123]

Maybe, but if you always live in fear and never take a risk. You might not lose anything, but at the same time you will never gain anything in life.

One thing is for certain if you do nothing you will get nothing, however if you take that risk, you will have that chance of that future in your mind and more. When that girl walks past you, will u let her go holding those dice in your hands going home with exactly what you came with and letting someone else take her or will take that risk and throw them and try to reach for the stars and prove your existance.

 

[BigCat]

There is nothing to gain from marriage if you are a man. Nothing

 

[rushing dude 123]

Guys thats just how i look at it, you can look at it from whatever angle you want.

You can look at it as "that could be the girl i am going to bang tonight". That could be the girl crawling on my carpert towards me naked infront of the fire. Because if not you, then shes going to be on someone elses carpert.

At the end of the day you desire something from a girl. If it be marriage, partner, Sex....etc... whatever. I am just saying people sometimes fail to see the possibilities infront of them.

For example when I am walking down the street most guys see just beautiful girls walking past them and think nothing of it. When i look through my eyes, I see girls that I could be taking out next friday on a date or even just straight back to my place for a nice oily massage...etc...

The point of this post is to open your eyes to the possibility of the world and what it can offer you.

 

[rushing dude 123]

There is nothing to gain from marriage if you are a man. Nothing

That's your opinion kool, I am not going to argue that or push my views and get into a whole is marriage wrong or right debate because it is your preference. Everyone wants different things and the point of the post is not to argue that, but just show the possibilities of your most truest desires are right infront of you in everyday life.

 

[BigCat]

OP no offence but you seriously need to listen to Tom Leykis pronto. No one denies you are the master of your own destiny, if you want to get hitched don't let us stop you but just know what you are getting into - marriage isn't some paradise where all of your dreams come true

 

[rushing dude 123]

Haha no offence taken, I am 21 so don't take me to be marriage crazy because trust me I am not going to get hitched anytime soon. I also understand the downfalls of what happens if it messes up. I however have my reasons to do so way in the future and i didn't really expect this to become a rushing dude don't get married thread haha.

 

[Doctrine Dark]

Great post. I hope I can at least try to have that thought in mind tonight, because my cold approach attempts usually end before I even get to say anything. It just scares me to death, and I wish I could put an end to it.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

There is nothing to gain from marriage if you are a man. Nothing

This is true. You don't need a piece of paper saying that you have to spend the rest of your life with someone. Marriage can be a very bad thing if you don't know what your doing.

Great post OP. From now on I will tell my save that girl I can be f*cking. Let's see how that works.

 

[Ease]

What about a dedicated partner and supporter to serve, take care of you and your home?

What about having kids and passing on a legacy and tradition?

What about having something to show for and live for in old age? Now tell me marriage is a bad thing.

Ofc i will be signing the prenumps, and everything is on my terms and she would sooner die than take my money and kids lol. That's a given.

 

[drak_ool]

If you guys think marriage is so bad, then why not write yet another thread on the subject instead of jacking the OP's thread?

I never looked at approaching beyond the "that could be my next lay", however looking back on how I met my girlfriend (cold approach at a bookstore), I am sometimes blown away by how my life has changed (for the better) simply because I had enough balls and game to approach a random gorgeous chick.

 

[Ease]

I remember my ancestors and relatives and what they did. My son will carry on my line and there will come a time when his life and success is more important than mine.

Instead of learning that marriage is bad and you die alone with nothing but yourself, maybe you should have learned how to be a man, husband, father. My assets will go to my children and I will be the happiest for it.

If i live like you then when i die i truly will be just dead with no difference.

 

[BigCat]

Unfortunately todays conditions are not like that your ancestors. Back then the social dynamics between the sexes were conducive to marriage and the carrying on of lines. Now the emancipation of women/feminism has dramatically reduced the average man's sexual/relationship value relative to women's making it significantly harder for the average man to find a wife. Add to this the draconian repercussions of a failed marriage for the man and it is implausible even if it does happen. Don't blame men for not magically becoming "men, husbands and fathers" when they were brought up by mothers quite happy to raise the next male generation to be spineless, eunuch wastes of spaces. Game exists as a reaction to the overwhelming inequality in mate-selection power between the sexes.

 

[typical]

That could be my WIFE

And while you stand there thinking this, a guy like me walks up and sticks his tongue down her throat and she gives you a nice long look as she leaves with me.

Her long look tells you that your are a beta loser and after she has cleaned up my *** from her mouth she will come back to you so you can be her cool girlfriend who will financially support her after she's had her "fun".

Just food for thought son

 

[rushing dude 123]

And while you stand there thinking this, a guy like me walks up and sticks his tongue down her throat and she gives you a nice long look as she leaves with me.

Her long look tells you that your are a beta loser and after she has cleaned up my *** from her mouth she will come back to you so you can be her cool girlfriend who will financially support her after she's had her "fun".

Just food for thought son

Yeah as soon as I have had my fun and I have gotten straight off your mom, I'll get straight down to doing that.....

On a serious note everyone has "fun" and thats the way how society is now, every girl you go out with can't be a virgin. But look man you can be a lonely old man and live by yourself for the rest of your life or....you can take one of these girl after having all her fun (marry or no marry) and maybe start a family and ****.

I chose the second option, so sue me.

A group of forum posters are really not going to change my mind on this matter, although i respect your guys insight, I already know the deal and so does near enough the rest of the world. So if you lot want to do whatever you want to do and it makes you happy or protects your posessions in case **** happens, go for it.

I didn't make this post to discuss this, I just wanted to help some of the new guys with their approach anxiety so they can see with their eyes the full opportunity round them, which can be a date, LTR, sex....whatever...

So look you guys can continue to discuss whatever, but I think I am going step out on this one, seeing this seems to just be going round in circles and is basically consisting of two sides trying to push their own views on to eachother. As for the props from some of the posters and the posters sticking on to the topic, thanks.

 

[BigCat]

There is no full opportunity for LTRs - sex yes plenty. But you are not doing new guys any service by "opening their eyes" to something that doesn't exist and if it does it comes packed with a time bomb.

You want to start a LTR with some used up bimbo who rode the **** carousel throughout her most fertile years then go ahead. However science backs up the fact that the more ****s a woman sees in her lifetime the less she can emotionally bond with a man. Her oxytocin levels drop with everynew partner she takes. This is one reason virginity was so cherished in a woman - she would be at her greatest potential for bonding through sex and have minimal expectations that are today exacerbated through hollywood and the rolling in the hay with bad-boys/alphas that desensitise her to afcs the same as porn does to men forcing them to seek if not expect HB8s+