That certain state of Mind...

[crashdietguy]

You've all been there, in that state of mind where everything just flows. Girls stare at you, you look them straight in the eye without looking away, and the girls break the stare with a blush coloring their cheeks. You walk with a certain grace, relaxed and not giving a damn what people think of you. When you talk, everything you say is right, because of how you say it and because you don't care what the other person thinks of you. It's confidence in its purest form, no routines, techniques and sh*t like that. It's like a natural high; what you say and do comes from within you.

I've been there several times, and I fvcking love that state of mind. Trouble is, the things that trigger my flow are usually external sources, like talking with someone I'm interested in and them responding well = voila I feel fvcking good (who wouldn't?).

I want to put my mind in the State of Flow without having to rely on the outside world. Real confidence comes from the world within, and I don't really know how to tap into it. What's the secret guys?

 

[Kirro]

I understand what you mean completely. I think that the trigger differs from person to person. However I think there may be a way to tap into this state willingly. For example you said you enter that state when you're getting good responses from someone you're interested in. So maybe you could focus on your exact feelings on that time via mini meditation & try to channel those emotions.

 

[5string]

When it "flows" with me, I am two things. First, in a good mood. And when I'm in a good mood, I am naturally confident. I think that all comes from within as you say. I really try to stay happy and avoid external stimuli or confront and eliminate it as soon as I can. I always make the effort to be in a good mood by getting things done that need to be done, or occupy my time with the things I like to do. A simple mindset. At least for me.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

For me it seems completely random, but it doesn't happen enough. It's just whatever ****tail my brain has cooked up that day is working extra well for me, and I'm on cloud nine for no apparent reason.

 

[HeMan]

agree with 5string...

do things u really enjoy doing and always try to see the positive in things..

you will begin to enjoy life awhole lot more

 

[scorpio1138]

I've been there several times, and I fvcking love that state of mind. Trouble is, the things that trigger my flow are usually external sources, like talking with someone I'm interested in and them responding well

yeah definitely had that a few times this year.

If I could trigger it myself combined with the relaxed state after a good massage, I'd be in heaven.

Pure Bliss it is.

 

[Blood Angel]

It's possible to train yourself to be able to enter a certain headspace. Lots of Martial Artists do it, as do people with chronic pain. It's a form of self-hypnosis.

 

[Huffman]

I've experimented with it for some time, these are my results:

• You start worrying too much about "being in the zone", you actually stop yourself from having a good time.
• You cannot "switch on" the zone, you have to build it up through things that make you confident (laughing with buddies, talking to girls as the night progresses). You can watch the rsd flawless natural film, he goes into that in detail.
• You can actually be pretty awesome without being "in the zone"
• It's a nice concept, and you definitely feel it when you're there, but you can't have it all the time. Be a cool dude and roll with it.
• When you're there, be quick to exploit the situation. It's like when you get the star in Super Mario. You're invincible, now go and get some.
• If you don't, you'll beat yourself up about it afterwards. And make new Threads on sosuave

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Your instinct serves you well. Remember that your mind (and your thoughts) are the ONLY thing under the sun over which you have indisputable control. Everything else is subject to varying degrees of outside influence and chance.

And this is the greatest blessing of man, for your thoughts are what determine every aspect of your destiny. Study on this subject is the most fruitful research you can make.

 

[Kailex]

Nothing like the rush of getting that job you wanted or even the promotion. All of a sudden, the world seems like a happier place and you can't stop smiling. Or maybe that girl gave you her phone number on your very first try. Or maybe you can finally afford that apartment you always wanted.

All these things and more seem to trigger emotional responses within us that'll make us fly higher than a kite.

It's really tough to pull this off internally, because of course, they are all external triggers.

I know what the OP is talking about, because when I got my last new job, the day I was hired, NOTHING could bring me down. Everyone could tell. And I've seen it happen before to other people.

The sun is shining, birds are singing and everyone takes notice. The whole day feels like a miracle and you want it to never end.

Maybe remembering these thoughts will help trigger a fraction of that?
It's tough though, because you KNOW that these things aren't happening again.

I think the distinction we need to make though, is NOT to try to be in the zone all the time, but instead, we need to make the MAN outside of the zone, be so much closer to the man INSIDE the zone, so that there's almost any real noticeable difference.
And how do we do that? By living our lives well and how we want to live them.

 

[crashdietguy]

Thanks for the replies guys, they really make me see things from different perspectives.

Reminiscing about the times I've been in the Flow certainly helps, and I can gain a fraction of the mindset that comes with it from just remembering. But like Kailex said, you can't always be in the Flow, if you would you wouldn't appreciate it as much. What I've realized these past days is that when I'm in the Flow, I smile all the time (not a big grin, just a healthy smile), so what I'm doing now is that I smile, and while doing so I tie it to the feeling of Flow. It seems to help me, maybe it can help someone else too. Just smile.