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CaliGuyInLondon

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okay so there's this girl...and here we go again, anyway long story short, kinda had a thing, been going up and down, a lot of push and pull, she plays a lot of games blah blah.

like a week or two ago she invited me over for thanksgiving and kept insisting i should come, so i said i would. then we stopped tlakin for abit, i brought up thanksgiving and she didnt mention anything so i said some AFC **** like "did you forget you invited me" and she said" no i invited a ton of people whoever wants to come will show up, ill be at *insert her address here*"

so yesterday i talk to her and thanksgiving comes up again and she doesnt mention anything about seeing me there, but i didnt say anything.

i was talking to an older mentor of mine today and telling him told him I had planned on texting her what time to come over and see on her response whether or not I should go. he was like "screw it man, just show up." I thought that might be kind of good advice, especially since she definitely invited me and what not and asking might make me seem a little weak? just wanted you guys' thoughts on whether I should just go or text her and find out what time first, or what.

and also what time you think I should roll over there?
 

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Deadly_Ripped

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If you're trying to play the game, then I'd say don't go. She invited you, then made it pretty clear that the invitation was absolutely nothing special.

If it was nothing special, and you don't go, then she shouldn't be bothered by that at all. If you don't go and she gets upset... you can tell her that you didn't think she gave a hoot at all because of what she said, and that she should be clearer next time with her feelings. Also, make sure you've got at least a decent reason why you weren't there.

If I were you, and since I have absolutely no information except what you've provided, I wouldn't go.
 

AAAgent

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don't play games. Just go to have fun, meet new people, and get a good meal. If you go in with the goal of accomplishing something and you don't, you end up disappointed. Besides its always easy to see someone who has a motive.
 

kody_starr

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Dude, please use some common sense. If you want to go, then go. If you don't, don't.
 

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