"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cliff Notes:

- Dated a 38yr old for 2.5 years (i'm 29)
- Lost my way towards the end; forgot about bettering myself
- 3 months later I am finally on the path to self-respect again
- Live on my own, going to get involved for myself
- Casually dating, including my ex (but new strategy, focused on myself)
- Everyone loves a good smash from time to time

I read back on some of the replies on my earlier post after my initial breakup, they were all on point and it just took a real hot minute to figure it out. I got my apartment to look proper, it's zen like a relaxing place to be (Before it was stressful and not homey yet) and now I'm on the path to motivation again.

Thanks to everyone on this community; Every time I ask for help - you guys are always on point.
I'll meet plenty of people in my life but I'm the only constant. Confident with yourself = Confident with women/life/career/social interaction/everything.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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