"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Stblack

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I just want the SoSuave community to know that amidst all the negativity and all the stupid questions asked on this site, there are some people out there who really try to learn what the site actually teaches. I am glad to say I am one of them. I just want to share my story I guess. It's a bit long though. Hopefully it'll be worth it.

So... little information about me before I begin. Few years ago, I was just a skinny little asian kid. Never had a chance to play any sports. Was pretty awkward really. I wore glasses. Played games a lot. Ugh.

Jr high was bad. People liked me but still. It was bad. There was one girl that I "loved". I actually talked to her on the phone like everynight. Never asked her out though. Got friendzoned obviously. I did everything wrong. Jesus, I even got her a teddy bear. Bleh. Well I got fed up in eigth grade. Stopped calling her. I became pretty bitter. The year came and went and I went to a different high school than her.

Freshman year I actually was optimistic. Fresh start was what I needed. I told myself I would become awesome. I... did better. I even attempted to ask a girl out to a dance. Lol I think I might've blushed. I got some friends though. People thought I was pretty funny. Freshman year was a lot better than anything in Jr high.

During summer though, I finally realized how bad things were. I went to watch a movie with some friends and guess who I saw? My "love" from jr high. Think I talked to her? NO. I opened the door for her family hoping she would notice me. Honestly, that just sounds bad. She didn't recognize me. I went home so angry at myself. I should've talked to her. Blah blah blah. I laid in my bed just fuming. Then I decided, I couldn't believe how low this felt, to google for help. And SoSuave popped up...

I read all summer and it made me reconsider everything. This site opened my eyes. I started trying to apply some tips. I needed confidence. I needed to change my looks. I needed a lot of things. This year, presently my sophmore year, began and I changed. I started to work out (I'll be honest and say I haven't gained much weight though), fixed my hair, and tried to have more fun. I went to my first dance, homecoming, and even finally for the first time in my life asked a girl out. This "relationship" ended in disaster though. I reverted back to an afc after she said yes. It lasted a whole week. Yea. I slumped pretty hard from this. I grew crazy oneitus for this chick basically texting her everyday. But this is getting lengthy so I'll skip over it. The new semester started bringing 2009 with it and I vowed to stay on the path to improving myself.

Skip a few months later to today, I'm in a second relationship which I'm sure will end a lot better. I'm not so self conscious about my body. I'm getting the straight a's I've always gotten. I'm having fun. Everything really is fine. And I honestly feel like I owe SoSuave for getting me here. So uhh....

Thanks! I know this is long, but I just kind of figured I should post this. The ending is a bit abrupt also, but I'm tired now. Should make some sense. So there you go. My success story I guess.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vive Hodie

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This site really does save and turn around lives. Its not just about girls, its about going from a follower to a leader.

Plenty of followers live successful lives. But only leaders can live exceptional lives. The livestyle that others wished they had.

You lucky to find sosoave early in your high school career. If you continue to practice and learn you will be over qualified for whatever college and the real world can throw at you.

Its always good to hear gratitude. I know I thank the stars for finding this place.
 

Darth_Qurashi

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yea man i totally agree. This community, and the readings inspired me. Like sure, it helped me get laid, but it also helped me realize that if i really go for something, I can do it. I can be who I want to be. I can achieve anything I want.
 

Get-With-It

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Good to hear about your success man. If you stick to improving yourself then you can only get better.
 
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