Thank You Text After First Date

[Dynamited]

Hey Guys

After a first date, do you use a thank you text from the girl as an indicator to follow up on the 2nd if you're keen?

Would you still ask her for a 2nd date if you don't hear from her after the 1st date?

I've had times when the girl would send the usual thank you text and go MIA after. There was also once when i didn't get the thank you text but the girl was keen on a 2nd.

 

[Serenity]

My last received "thank you" text ended in a relationship, but after "thank you" it also said "I want to see you again" in plain language. Which I would say is a pretty damn certain indicator.

Getting a "thank you" is not an indication, it's something she might feel for a very short time. She'll send the text then immediately or within a short time change her mind.

I would ask for a 2nd date regardless of her sending "thank you" or not if I liked her. You do not need some form of validation to ask a woman out for a 2nd date. It does in fact not hurt to ask, the worst that happens is nothing which is pretty much the baseline anyways.

Do not rely upon indicators (unless they're straight obvious like mine was). If you like a woman then ask for more, continue until you either don't want her anymore or she doesn't respond. It's simple, hell of a lot simpler than trying to read indicators in subtle language that most often doesn't mean what you want it to mean.

 

[Urbanyst]

How you behave after a first date can impact if a girl sleeps with you earlier or sees you as a provider.

Generally, its not in your best interest to make women feel secure. So often, I won't reach out too soon after a first date. I might wait a few days or maybe a week. Then I'll send out a text telling her I had a blast and want to see her again. The waiting you do creates suspense and checks her ego. Even if she isn't that into you, the suspense that comes from not knowing if she will ever hear from you again will raise her interest. People want what they can't easily get. She'll know she has to work to get you and that makes you seem more valuable.

I've found that creating suspense makes women more likely to get physical on the second date. On the flip side, when I reach out right after a first date to tell her I had fun and boost her ego, the result is she relaxes more and becomes more aloof because she knows I'm into her.

The exception is women who are controlling or narcissistic. Those women will wait a long time to respond if you wait long to contact them. In those cases just move on. If a woman needs instant gratification to see your value, then she is probably a bytch anyway. You don't want women who make you feel pressure to act. You want to feel relaxed and in control.

Its always good to give women space. Show interest, but don't seem too eager too early.

 

[Roober]

Most women will send a "thank you. had a good time." I don't think it really means anything to be honest. I have seen both sides of the coin as well. Some are keen on setting up another date, other's not so much. Some will blatantly tell you they want to see you again or something along those lines. I might ping a girl after a couple days, but generally, I forget about her until I have free time again(may be 1-2 weeks). My texting is pretty lousy, so I try to keep it minimal. When I am ready to set up another date, I reach out again...

 

[Glassguy]

Never do a "thank you" text after a date.

If things go well, I normally just say "Text me when you make it home so I know you made it safely". Chicks will use that line too. It guarantees further communication.

Normally I let their response to that "Hey babe I made it home ok" text show me where their interest level is.

 

[icantgetlaid]

What a girl says means nothing, ever.

I've had girls say "i liked the date thank you so much you are awesome" who ghosted me. I've had girls say nothing that became quick long time plates. I've even had girls tell me they don't like me during our next conversation but then accept another date and become good long term plates.

The only thing that matters is whether she continues to see you going forward - and how easy she allows it to happen.

Don't get caught up in meanings of texts .. give her some space after a date (several days) and then contact her to set up another date. Her response to your next date request will tell you everything you need to know. Anything other than a "yes" means low interest, and it's time to next.

 

[bigneil]

After a first date, do you use a thank you text from the girl as an indicator to follow up on the 2nd if you're keen?

Absolutely, yes. Unless she says LJBF.

Would you still ask her for a 2nd date if you don't hear from her after the 1st date?

Absolutely not. I've yet to have a case where I wish I wrote after the date. With my current relationship (first date four months ago today) I have never once initiated after a date. In every case, I wait until she writes (it takes her 3-4 days on average).