CBear
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 3, 2018
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I have come to the realization that my time here is done and I wanted to express my gratitude to everyone on this forum.
To understand why I came here and looked to seek help at such a young age, it's necessary to realize that I grew up having no male figures to look up to and hopefully this can help some of you as a result. I grew up being constantly beaten and choked as a child. As a result, I had such incredible hate for this world. Had so much anger within me. In high school, I was the skinny, awkward, ugly kid who was easy to step on. Had no direction in life whatsoever. After high school, I found myself having an EXTREME appetite for wanting to become an "ideal" man but I never new what that even was. How should I have known? I was never around confident guys who were doing well in all aspects of their lives. But I knew that I had to change one step at a time. But one thing eventually lead to the other.
First Step was signing up to the gym. Shortly after, I realized that I had a passion for building my physical self up. Don't know why this was the case. All the anger I had within me or the fact that I wanted to just be better? Even on bad days, I convinced myself to stay consistent and continue pushing my limits. This ended up opening a lot of opportunities for me. I met a lot of older guys who were into fitness as well who praised my work ethic. I gradually got to know these guys who were in their mid-late twenties and early thirties and we got closer. These were guys who have had more experience in the world and it was the first glance I had at what kind of man I wanted to be. My personality slowly changed from being shy and awkward to being much more outgoing.
As my obsession with fitness continued, my looks thrived. I started getting more opportunities. Had girls ask me out. Everything went okay but I would get way too attached way too quickly and was way too nice. But I had nothing to work off of. Only advice I was given was from my mother and that was to treat women very well and like a princess. Kinda ironic since she has been married to an abusive man for over 2 decades.
I expressed my frustrations with my friends at the gym and they told me to check out Sosuave. Before I joined, I spent some time looking over the forums and reading Brad's guide. After this, I started becoming more interested in my wardrobe. Not only this, I felt like I had a better idea of my direction in life. Went through more experiences and improvements and I suddenly had girls trying to sleep with me, either through facebook or through the gym. Gradually dated more as well but I acted too much like a gentleman and got turned down very quickly. That's when I joined the forum.
What I did next is what I think every person that joins this forum SHOULD do. Acquire knowledge, gain the mindset, go through experiences.
I read the DJ Bible and asked for help on the forum and took part in discussions. Even had a debate with Brad about how to treat women and today I look back at that and realize just how drastically my mindset has changed. I continued reading over the DJ Bible, read the Book of Pook, The Rationale Male, Models, and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. It all started making much more sense and my mindset has changed as a result. In addition to this, I'd like to thank the 5 older posters that I have followed since joining the forum. They have either helped me personally, helped open my eyes about certain things, kept things totally real about life, and/or gave me a great example or qualities of the type of guy I want to be when I'm older. But I want to thank everyone on here, even the people I didn't agree with, as you have challenged my beliefs.
My confidence is much better and in addition to being aware of people and caring for them when need be, I have an IDGAF attitude about certain things in life as I know that we will always experience BS and have to desensitize ourselves to it.
Looking back at things today, the older guys I met at the gym are some of the closest people that I can count on. I'm about to compete in my first natural bodybuilding show, and am in school to become an NP with aspirations to be a Personal Trainer on the side. My goals are as clear as can be. Rollo said that guys my age shouldn't be focusing on women, rather, they should be focusing on building their careers and their futures. That is what I plan to do.
I'm about to turn 21 in a week and being this young with the knowledge many guys my age don't have, going forward, I want to go through as many experiences as I can. Good and bad. I want to continue to focus on my physical self and my wardrobe while gradually bettering my mental self even more. It's a never ending journey.
Having said all that, I believe that I have benefited from all that I need to from SoSuave. I definitely plan on checking back once in a while or one day but I have acquired the knowledge, I have gained the mindset, now it's time for me to go out and go through even more experiences.
I am so grateful for this place. The guys (and gals) here are magnificent and are here to help as they have gone through way more experiences than I have. Any new person that reads this, yes, there are some extreme views with some people sometimes but the beauty is that you get to digest different point of views and decide how you view life. I will always have some sort of anger inside of me due to my upbringing but I am happy with life and am motivated to have a good life and be the man that I want to be.
Thank you everyone, thank you SoSuave.
To understand why I came here and looked to seek help at such a young age, it's necessary to realize that I grew up having no male figures to look up to and hopefully this can help some of you as a result. I grew up being constantly beaten and choked as a child. As a result, I had such incredible hate for this world. Had so much anger within me. In high school, I was the skinny, awkward, ugly kid who was easy to step on. Had no direction in life whatsoever. After high school, I found myself having an EXTREME appetite for wanting to become an "ideal" man but I never new what that even was. How should I have known? I was never around confident guys who were doing well in all aspects of their lives. But I knew that I had to change one step at a time. But one thing eventually lead to the other.
First Step was signing up to the gym. Shortly after, I realized that I had a passion for building my physical self up. Don't know why this was the case. All the anger I had within me or the fact that I wanted to just be better? Even on bad days, I convinced myself to stay consistent and continue pushing my limits. This ended up opening a lot of opportunities for me. I met a lot of older guys who were into fitness as well who praised my work ethic. I gradually got to know these guys who were in their mid-late twenties and early thirties and we got closer. These were guys who have had more experience in the world and it was the first glance I had at what kind of man I wanted to be. My personality slowly changed from being shy and awkward to being much more outgoing.
As my obsession with fitness continued, my looks thrived. I started getting more opportunities. Had girls ask me out. Everything went okay but I would get way too attached way too quickly and was way too nice. But I had nothing to work off of. Only advice I was given was from my mother and that was to treat women very well and like a princess. Kinda ironic since she has been married to an abusive man for over 2 decades.
I expressed my frustrations with my friends at the gym and they told me to check out Sosuave. Before I joined, I spent some time looking over the forums and reading Brad's guide. After this, I started becoming more interested in my wardrobe. Not only this, I felt like I had a better idea of my direction in life. Went through more experiences and improvements and I suddenly had girls trying to sleep with me, either through facebook or through the gym. Gradually dated more as well but I acted too much like a gentleman and got turned down very quickly. That's when I joined the forum.
What I did next is what I think every person that joins this forum SHOULD do. Acquire knowledge, gain the mindset, go through experiences.
I read the DJ Bible and asked for help on the forum and took part in discussions. Even had a debate with Brad about how to treat women and today I look back at that and realize just how drastically my mindset has changed. I continued reading over the DJ Bible, read the Book of Pook, The Rationale Male, Models, and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. It all started making much more sense and my mindset has changed as a result. In addition to this, I'd like to thank the 5 older posters that I have followed since joining the forum. They have either helped me personally, helped open my eyes about certain things, kept things totally real about life, and/or gave me a great example or qualities of the type of guy I want to be when I'm older. But I want to thank everyone on here, even the people I didn't agree with, as you have challenged my beliefs.
My confidence is much better and in addition to being aware of people and caring for them when need be, I have an IDGAF attitude about certain things in life as I know that we will always experience BS and have to desensitize ourselves to it.
Looking back at things today, the older guys I met at the gym are some of the closest people that I can count on. I'm about to compete in my first natural bodybuilding show, and am in school to become an NP with aspirations to be a Personal Trainer on the side. My goals are as clear as can be. Rollo said that guys my age shouldn't be focusing on women, rather, they should be focusing on building their careers and their futures. That is what I plan to do.
I'm about to turn 21 in a week and being this young with the knowledge many guys my age don't have, going forward, I want to go through as many experiences as I can. Good and bad. I want to continue to focus on my physical self and my wardrobe while gradually bettering my mental self even more. It's a never ending journey.
Having said all that, I believe that I have benefited from all that I need to from SoSuave. I definitely plan on checking back once in a while or one day but I have acquired the knowledge, I have gained the mindset, now it's time for me to go out and go through even more experiences.
I am so grateful for this place. The guys (and gals) here are magnificent and are here to help as they have gone through way more experiences than I have. Any new person that reads this, yes, there are some extreme views with some people sometimes but the beauty is that you get to digest different point of views and decide how you view life. I will always have some sort of anger inside of me due to my upbringing but I am happy with life and am motivated to have a good life and be the man that I want to be.
Thank you everyone, thank you SoSuave.
