Thank you Backbreaker, Jaylan, Mike, and most of the SoSuave crew....

[Ambitious Player]

I joined SoSuave a long time ago when I was trying to find a way to break away from being an AFC. Truth is I did breakaway from it and I did start to see results. Unfortunately it took years but I am in a better condition than I was when I did join the forum. What bothers me now is that a lot more work has to be done. It is like I am never satisfied with my results and constantly want to keep improving and seeing results.

Not long ago I posted about my struggles with attractive White American girls, especially those of certain niches (sorority types). I have seen some abysmal results with them and it has made me develop somewhat of a victim mentality which is unhealthy. It gets me that I can do well with different kinds of girls whether it is some exotic Latina or even a European exchange student but can't do well with girls from the country I was born in (USA). Also they make up the majority so I pretty much have to interact with them.

I also have this whole inclination to make up for lost time being that I was an AFC throughout my teenage years. Having girls laugh at you, guys make fun of you, and everyone feel sorry for you to the point they are trying to hook you up with ugly girls. That took its mental toll on me and I want to get as far away from that as I can. It has led to me being ambitious and hungry and to consistently keep on improving.

Now that I have hit a stressful time of my life where I cannot go out as much, my social life took a toll. I have unfortunately regressed.

I posted this thread because it seemed like Backbreaker, Jaylan, and so many others here took time out of their lives to try and help me with my struggles only to be met by my whining. My regret is not being able to take in the advice they gave me and just to keep on whining about my situation.

What I have realized right now is that nothing anyone posts here can really help me as much (other than suggestions on some good cities a bachelor in his early 20s can go to). I am in my early 20s and have ways to go to improve myself.

Maybe one day I do start to see results with the kind of girls I want but I know my happiness cannot come from validation I get from women.

You guys have been so helpful to me in a time where a lot is going wrong in my life. Thank you.

 

[Comatozed]

I'm hoping this place can help me make some similar changes. Definitely opened my eyes to the need to constantly self improve.

well done on the progress!

 

[Dgwizdal]

Playher_man > ALL

 

[Jaylan]

Youre welcome OP. Improvement takes times...and improvement takes self confidence. That said, as soon as you can, find a new locale to call home. Listen to backbreaker and get out of the south. You would have a field day in the northeast and certain areas of the west coast. And if you just have to stay in the south...move toward a bigger metro area like Atlanta or maybe Houston.

But if you are really dead set on branching out interracially, its all about the east and west coasts.

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Lol not really

 

[backbreaker]

that's why I keep coming back. keep your chin up dude you'll be fine. alot of us just didn't have the figures in our lives to tell us this type of **** that we need to hear.

 

[Ambitious Player]

I've lived in Atlanta before, it's pretty bad too with some of the racism that is still around. A lot of the graduates of SEC schools who were big in the Greek Life end up moving there for jobs so it isn't that different from Wichita or some town in Arkansas, especially if you are in my situation (minority that wants to do well with White girls).

@Backbreaker:

I know man, sometimes I do imagine how different my life would have been if I had a figure to help show me the way.

 

[zekko]

Playher_man > ALL

This placed has improved about 3000% since he's been banned, IMO.

 

[backbreaker]

foreal