"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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oscarxp25

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I just wanted to throw out a thanks to this entire site. After constantly reading these tips and stories, I have landed a solid 9. I met this Indian chick in my Spanish class and saw that she was looking at me for sometimes, finally one day I struck up a conversation with her and found out she was a model, along with being a runner up in a local beauty pageant. At first, I thought she was saying it to make herself look better but then she showed me all these pictures of herself taken by professionals and pics of her on stage. Normally, I would go gaga over her and kiss her ass. This time I decided to play it like I did not need her. I busted her balls, everytime she could not come out I made her feel like she was missing out. I introduced Kino the third time talking to her, which I never did in the past. It does not end there, I have been mackin three girls including the one mentioned above. It feels so good to finally get it and I have all you guys to thanks.

I just have one more question. I still am trying to tackle what the hell is wrong with me in clubs. See, when I go there I know what to do but the minute I walk in everything goes blank. My friends know me as the dancer, cause I have taken 6 years of hip/hop. I have no problem with dancing with girls who are friends of friends, or when I am drunk off my ass. I do not want to hide behind alcohol, I want to conquer this problem right away. I think I get a little intimadated when seeing all these tall guys who are buff (I am 5'7, young looking for my age and not bulging with muscles) I am a good looking kid but everytime I get on the dance floor I get clueless on how to dance with a girl. Do I ask? How do I move behind a girl who I do not know without looking like a creep but a smooth player?

Thanks though again for the advice so far that has changed my life.

--kevin
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dude if you have 6 years of hip-hop classes, then do your thing, chances are you can outdance anyone in the club. Do it, the girls will start coming up to you and trying to make conversation, do it become a popular guy in the club scene, it may take a few weeks but before you know it you will have so much social proof at the club it is sick.

As for dancing with a girl, grinding is easy, just put your arms around her and and move with the bass. Also whenever you are dancing with her remind yourself that she is on some level evaluating how you will be in bed by how you dance with her.

edit, props on the success so far dude
 

Morphiex

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if u look in the dj bible link to the top right of the site , and click it , then click on clubs and pubs , there are some awesome posts there that will answer your questions.... its about dancing how to approach girls that are dancing and all that u want to know....

and good job mate for getting the indian babe , Indian babes can be really hot =)

peace and good luck to ya mate =)
 

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The difficult thing here is to be patient and keep cool mind and don´t give up dancing like the guy you are who has taken 6 years of hip hop classes, it´s not only the way you move your butt, that may make her think you are a good ******, it´s about making your 'prey' think that u fu** every girl you approach to, the more time you go on without giving up, the more chances you´d have to get her approval.
 

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"Hi, I'm a good looking guy and I landed a good looking girl. I also possess superior dance skills but I wanted to let you know that so you can worship my great self"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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