Humour me guys with an open mind and enlighten me with your experience. Long story short, I have been having a loooooooong text back and forth for over a month which has seemingly increased a connection and formed quite an intimate bond which goes against my understanding of text dynamics. Me and this girl are mature students at university who said practically **** all to each other but she was checking me out way to much to not be interested. We exchanged numbers over some assignment but I'm not THAT clueless as to know it was just a legitimate excuse for contact. Thing is the connection was nourished exclusively over text and sealing the deal is a dead cert just depending on logistics and actually setting a meet. Disclaimer 1. I know the obvious reaction is stop wasting time on some chick you're not even seeing let alone banging. 2. She's just getting a **** load of free validation and stringing you along. 3. Few red flags I'm aware of but I'm amused and curious nonetheless. My position is what the hell is ACTUALLY going on as she is way too involved and committed to this back and forth to just be a bit of validation. I am pretty sure she's not getting any elsewhere as I've got eyes and ears on her from others. This whole interaction goes against my common sense but there is something I can't quite pin down about it. Again, not seriously invested despite appearances but enjoying testing theories and conclusions to improve my knowledge of this whole dating game.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
Ask her out when you know she's free and go ghost on her immediately if she says no or anything which isn't conductive to working out a time with her
Sound advice. Have already begun the process of pulling away but I suspect that this play is far from over. Look forward with some curiosity to doing a little subtle detective work and finding out what was actually the deal. Then pack it in my travel bag and March on.