"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Big Poppa

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Alright, I need a clear view on this. I always find little rants that or for or against texting in different threads, but I thought this would be great way to condense texting debates.

What do you guys think about texting?

Does it hurt or help your Game?

Is it completely useless?

or Does it help Game tremendously?

I have a mixed view on this. Sometimes it seems I can make great headway and sometimes I think i text too much, that I don't leave a bit of mystery.

Should I stop texting completely, or just only text when I'm txted?

Discuss!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sly6699

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It may vary based on your situation but:

I am in High School, and most girls in my school are not comfortable immediately jumping on the phone with you without first having some text conversation.

Generally, I use texting to lead into phone calls. Remember to avoid texting too much.
 

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i have unlimited texts but only 300 minutes with no free nights but free weekends since i dont talk a lot on the phone but texting is easier because she can respond to you whenever (if she chooses to) but with a phone call if she doesn't pick up, then you're wondering "should i call again?". I text more but i would rather have a phone conversation sometimes
 

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Hey I need help I think I been texting too much I been txt this girl for the last 4 weeks and I talk about stuff wit her and its been gud txt convos ANd she said thats we need to tlk on the phone/meet up So should I just call her off guard and call her? Or txt first? then go on the phone and what if she keeps delaying it?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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youngswagger09 said:
Hey I need help I think I been texting too much I been txt this girl for the last 4 weeks and I talk about stuff wit her and its been gud txt convos ANd she said thats we need to tlk on the phone/meet up So should I just call her off guard and call her? Or txt first? then go on the phone and what if she keeps delaying it?
i would just call
 

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I find calling instead of texting the best method.
With a call u get a more definitive answer or whatever out of her PLUS she gets the impression you're a confident mofo. Cos texting near the start i think projects an image of weakness so id recommend phoning!

With a call u can also tell from her voice if shes happy to hear from you!

Id say texting at the start does hurt your game... later on its fine, once u know shes into you etc. PHONE! ALWAYS PHONE! haha

I also would recommend phoning even if u think that the girl is into texting or texting is the USUAL thing to do. Why? cos u gotta show her u aint run of the mill!!! and u have NUTS!

peace out bros
 

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Big Poppa said:
Alright, I need a clear view on this. I always find little rants that or for or against texting in different threads, but I thought this would be great way to condense texting debates.

What do you guys think about texting?
Waste of time in most cases. It takes more time to have a conversation when your text messaging than it takes when you actually talk on the phone. It wouldn't be a waste of time when your doing something else or when you'd like to text many girls at the same time to hang out.

It's so much easier to text girls than to actually call them up. It shows her you have balls and you can make a totally different impression on her. Girls have told me a few times they were surprised I called them.

And what really annoys me is when girls take long to text or don't text back. Just call her and clear things up. If she ignores your calls, you know she's not interested and that's it. It's harder to tell if she's not interested by text messages.

Lately, I've been finding texting more and more annoying. People are always on their phones and it's a bad habit. You have the habit of putting your head down and it hurts my eyes after a while. Texting is just another addiction like facebook.

Big Poppa said:
Does it hurt or help your Game?
It helps my game. When I don't have plans on the weekend, I text a couple girls I'm interested in at the same time and see what their doing and I just hear about parties or hang out with them alone.

I usually text when I'm bored somewhere (like in unimportant classes) or when I just met the girl. I text her to warm things up so she knows my number and she knows who I am when I call. It makes things easier that way, I find.

Big Poppa said:
Is it completely useless?
Not entirely useless, but your game shouldn't depend on it.

Big Poppa said:
or Does it help Game tremendously?
Can you help you big time if your smooth with text messages. I can be really smooth and it gives you a bit of time to think of your replies which is a big advantage than calling because your put on the spot.
 
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