"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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psIfuRy

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I've always been pretty weak on my text game. I see guys and girls always just randomly texting each other...i never really texted, but texting is so big now, it seems like it would be dumb for me to not do it right.
If i have a reason to text a girl, i can make the conversation really light and flirty, but i never really got how some guys just randomly text a girl. Like, say i'm interested in a girl and i want to text her...what do i text to just start texting?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cola

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Something light and funny but not cliche or boring like..

Instead of saying "what's up"
Instead say "what's up my future ex wife"

Or just something random like ..
"Hey.. I have on spongebob boxers"..

Be creative..
Not being like every other guy is really 80% of this game..
 

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Just because everyone does it, doesn't mean you need to. I nearly never text women. If they text me, most of the time I don't even reply.

Keep in mind you can't get across emotion or tone in a text, and most of the men you see out there are texting because they are either chumps, future chumps, or don't have the balls to call.
 

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Yeah, your right. My more natural dj friends always got angry at me for not texting chicks and no matter how much people like captain deny it which is fair enough i hate to but as you said it's coming up as a way to pick up chicks and you can't just leave it.

Cola's advice is good, but don't do that all the time especially if it's maybe like a first time texting her. But light and funny is good occasionally you can't do that every time it'll just get old and "whats up, my future ex wife" now don't do that, thats just a tad to weird for most girls. But the second one is good and funny, but obviously don't do that if it your first time texting her.

Captain also made a good point, you can't get emotion across on text so just watch what you say. Which is why you don't say stuff like "my future ex wife" can just come off creepy, but the spongebob boxers who can take that seriously lol??

Or a really good way to start is like mention a personal joke or something. For example i slipped on this hill (drunk) with my girl i know and a few days later i slipped a little bit on it again and just txted her saying. "i just slipped on that hill again haha" which automatically threw us into a text conversation.

Just never ever use texting as a substitute for meting up with her in person. a simple "so when am i gonna see you next" or "what you up to this weekend...ect...ect. Just use it as a base to have some funny, lighthearted conversation and then to met up sometime.

oh well, i typed a lot more then i was meant to lol. hope i helped!

Btw cola thats brilliant advice "Not being like every other guy is really 80% of this game" that just amazingly true.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jeffthechef

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i'm no against or for it..of course there are it's advantages and disadvantages

the thing is, technology is slowly making it harder for dj's
just don't get too attached to that form of communication...my friend texts so much that it ruins his ability in person-to-person communication and phone talks

ALSO...texting too much ruins the mystery...you don't want her thinking you have too much time...and you don't want to talk every single day...you should have a couple off days..where you leave her alone

texting is fine, just be wary of how much you do text
 
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