Texting, the Relationship Killer...

[Atom Smasher]

She lives and breathes by that phone. Her entire life is usually consumed with texting with her friends.

That means she has developed a certain language and certain established patterns of communication with it.

You don't speak that language. You're a man. 80% of what you text WILL be mis-interpreted. Ever notice how often a simple text exchange turns into an argument? How such a little spark set such a big flame?

Text is a relationship destroyer. I know... I have let texting get out of control to the point of trying to solve relationship problems with it. The temptation is very strong because it is so IMMEDIATE.

This has been a public service announcement from AS.
We now return you to your regularly scheduled progamming.........

 

[Drdeee]

I'm remembering pook now, one of the first posts in the book of pook. So the girls talk to each other, and guys do action, and when guy talks to a girl she wants to be friends with him. I bet they also text to their girlfriends and guy friends.

 

[tryst type]

I strongly agree, especially in the sense of using texting to have "fun, funny, conversations" thinking it's raising her interest in you. YES this could work but honestly it's a 15% rate and it's most likely working on the introverted girls who are comfortable with that kind of communication.

I'm guilty of falling into this texting crap from the first days of it's inception. My friends would always strike up convos with me so naturally i transitioned it into talking to girls. It works for light fun banter exchange but can quickly and i mean quickly kill or decrease any interest in a girl if prolonged with no call to action on your part OR hers.

I'm recently starting to break the texting loop in the midst of it's peak (if a conversations ensues) i will say "ok enough wasting of my unlimited texts, call me, or let's get together i'm free so and so"

stop the texting! use it only as a little reminder of yourself to her!

 

[Atom Smasher]

Stop the texting! use it only as a little reminder of yourself to her!

That's the idea. That is leveraging a tool that can very easily work against you if allowed.

Above all else, don't EVER handle a disagreement via text.

She will ALWAYS, without fail, focus on one little word or phrase you use and use it against you, and also harbor it for future use (if there even is a future).

I speak from experience. It's so immediate and gratifying to get that one little complaint off, only to be misinterpreted and/or harbored.

Text at your own peril, and understand that the peril is REAL.