Texting guidelines and etiquette?

[oldmanofthesea]

Sounds like you are doing quite well. As for it boomeranging back to you, if you think it's too early still, you can just respond to, "what do you think about us?" type questions by replying, "I'm really enjoying spending time with you and getting to know you and am interested in seeing where this goes." In that, you give her part of what she seeks and may need in order to keep seeing you - that you really ARE interested in her and in the prospect of a *progression* but you are also saying you aren't too eager to commit to something with the first person who wants it with you, that you aren't fully sold on her just yet, and she has to continue proving herself to you to get there.

 

[sazc]

So here's the thing that, as a younger woman, I didn't realize, but wish I had....

It's BEST to screen for at least 2 months. You really need to get to know someone you intend to spend a LOT of time with.

My younger mistakes were mostly getting locked down too quickly, realizing sone aspect of him sucked, and then trying to "fix him" resident I couldn't, and then trying to exit gracefully. Wasting a whole lot of time during the process.

Honestly, I think a 4 month screen is appropriate but idk many balanced wimen who call sex a guy up for 4 months, with no commitment, who won't go crazy due to anxiety.

Just be honest with where you are. She might not be able to handle your prolonged screening process and decide to bail. Maybe she will stick around. It is what it is.

Shoot.... How crazy is her family? Is she a spender or a saver? Neat or messy? Reckless or reserved? Kids or not? Cat or dog? Farted in front of you yet? Temper? Etc, etc, etc. No need to rush in to anything, still a lot to discover.