What are your typical texting guidelines and etiquette you follow? The 3 (?) ladies here are welcome to chime in from their perspective @BeExcellent @AJ84 @sazc
1. First contact - I think the man should make the first contact (lead) so I have no problem with this at all, except on Bumble women have to initiate it so that's different. Women who contact me first is also fine as it shows a high IL on their part. So really no right or wrong here.
2. Texting between dates - say there are 3+ days in between i.e. on Sun you ask her out, and Fri is when you can meet up. I will usually send a text on Tue and Thu.
3. Texting after the first date - I prefer the woman reaches out, after-all the guy took her out so if she has interest in seeing the guy again I think she should text and let the guy know she had a great time, thanks etc etc. However, if I really liked her I do reach out to her the next evening (if she hasn't) saying I had a nice time and if she's available to meet up again.
4. Texting after sex - I used to let the woman text me but in my experience they hesitate. I later found out that they felt if I liked the sex I would reach out otherwise she would consider it a pump-and-dump. Ghosting after sex is hurtful to most women unless that's all they were looking for too. I usually keep it simple depending on what happened etc 'Hey, I just wanted to say I had a great time with you, I'm a sucker for pillow talk sorta like an aft-play' or 'I hope you're having a great day; after last night I certainly am ' or whatever.
1. First contact - I think the man should make the first contact (lead) so I have no problem with this at all, except on Bumble women have to initiate it so that's different. Women who contact me first is also fine as it shows a high IL on their part. So really no right or wrong here.
2. Texting between dates - say there are 3+ days in between i.e. on Sun you ask her out, and Fri is when you can meet up. I will usually send a text on Tue and Thu.
3. Texting after the first date - I prefer the woman reaches out, after-all the guy took her out so if she has interest in seeing the guy again I think she should text and let the guy know she had a great time, thanks etc etc. However, if I really liked her I do reach out to her the next evening (if she hasn't) saying I had a nice time and if she's available to meet up again.
4. Texting after sex - I used to let the woman text me but in my experience they hesitate. I later found out that they felt if I liked the sex I would reach out otherwise she would consider it a pump-and-dump. Ghosting after sex is hurtful to most women unless that's all they were looking for too. I usually keep it simple depending on what happened etc 'Hey, I just wanted to say I had a great time with you, I'm a sucker for pillow talk sorta like an aft-play' or 'I hope you're having a great day; after last night I certainly am ' or whatever.