I know it is better to talk to girls in person, but I have no choice for this weekend. I need some hints for texting. I know you are suppose to keep your messages short, but last night she would ask me like 3 questions in one text. What do?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
youngmack
Master Don Juan
I have this same problem too, just that i dont know how ot game girls in person or through text.. Idk what exactly you should say to "game" a girl
some men will tell you texting should only be used to set up/confirm dates
i'm 24, texting is my life. it is what it is. i cant remeber the last time i called someone to talk. so since it's a big part of my life, it also is a big part of my game.
you have to be interesting, and sometimes mysterious. that includes short, open ended answers to her questions and leaving on a high note.
i almost never ever open with a hello or a hey. and i never ask "whatsup?" because we all know the answer to that is "nothing much, you?"
i just jump right into something interesting or random to spark interest and go from there.
there are also little keys to know when to stop. if she texts me "lol!" or "hahaha!", but nothing else to progress the convo, i use that cue to stop texting. you always want to leave on a high note and preferibly have her be the last one to text you.
dont reveal too much of yourself or text too much/too often or you'll become her little text buddy. just enough that she has an idea of who you are, but wants to find out more by meeting in person
i'm 24, texting is my life. it is what it is. i cant remeber the last time i called someone to talk. so since it's a big part of my life, it also is a big part of my game.
you have to be interesting, and sometimes mysterious. that includes short, open ended answers to her questions and leaving on a high note.
i almost never ever open with a hello or a hey. and i never ask "whatsup?" because we all know the answer to that is "nothing much, you?"
i just jump right into something interesting or random to spark interest and go from there.
there are also little keys to know when to stop. if she texts me "lol!" or "hahaha!", but nothing else to progress the convo, i use that cue to stop texting. you always want to leave on a high note and preferibly have her be the last one to text you.
dont reveal too much of yourself or text too much/too often or you'll become her little text buddy. just enough that she has an idea of who you are, but wants to find out more by meeting in person
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
cablecow15
Master Don Juan
I feel that alot of us need to focus on acquiring these skills , because like it or not , from here on out its only going to become more necessary ,
tech is only going to make people more anti social , and if you cant warm up over texts , then some one who can will weed you out
tech is only going to make people more anti social , and if you cant warm up over texts , then some one who can will weed you out
yup. the game doesn't change, but the way we implement it does. being interesting, funny, mysterious, leaving an impression--all tips you use in real life, now we're just sending them via text. nothing's changedcablecow15 said:
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There are a lot of older guys on this forum, so this isn't the best place to ask for texting advice. They don't understand how completely normal it is for people our age to set up meet ups, bang outs, and dates through texting. It's not as risky as they say it is. Most of my friends NEVER even call, and still get consistent sex and relationships.
That said, I would text her only every other day, and only a few times, and then call her. Always be calling her in between texting (of course, only if she is responding
), because it will make you stand out a little more than her average orbiters. But going back to my original point, you can text her and never call her and still get her to go out with you (I see it happen all the time. Source: college student, and I've personally done it twice), but I think it adds some edge to call her.
Don't text her about boring stuff. Text her something funny or witty. For example, I was texting this psychology major chick every few days. I sent her a text once where I said, "Hey, I want to start a Pink Floyd cover band called Pink Freud. Are you down?" She cracked up (I ended up going out with her a week later and I got a make out). So text them stuff that will make them laugh and remember you.
That said, I would text her only every other day, and only a few times, and then call her. Always be calling her in between texting (of course, only if she is responding
), because it will make you stand out a little more than her average orbiters. But going back to my original point, you can text her and never call her and still get her to go out with you (I see it happen all the time. Source: college student, and I've personally done it twice), but I think it adds some edge to call her.Don't text her about boring stuff. Text her something funny or witty. For example, I was texting this psychology major chick every few days. I sent her a text once where I said, "Hey, I want to start a Pink Floyd cover band called Pink Freud. Are you down?" She cracked up (I ended up going out with her a week later and I got a make out). So text them stuff that will make them laugh and remember you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.