Texting: better way to create urgency?

[tryst type]

I'm not much a fan of texting unless it's to set up plans but! If it's a new girl who I've started talking to off pof or Facebook which I've yet to meet, they like to exchange couple texts to build comfort before meeting.

My question, would it better to delay my responses or chat a bit then cut it off first and tell her to send me a text later? Looking for best way in getting her to want to talk to/see me more since I know most guys will constantly text endlessly.

 

[joverby]

I know what you mean. In these situations you pretty much have to text first. At least I feel that way. I'm sure some people would be fine calling right off the bat, but I like to try to build a little rapport first.

I would just play it by ear man. See how into the convo she is(how big her responses are, is she asking question back?)

So I would say just build a little rapport then go for the set-up. Ask her to meet you out some where that you are going out to. Or set up a date...w/e

 

[tryst type]

I've had success by cutting convo off at a high point and saying to text me later which if she does then setting up a get together is almost always gauranteed.

Problem is, some don't and then I feel weird texting first. So was curious if a delayed response would be better choice.

 

[joverby]

Well if they don't, they probably aren't that interest or didn't think of it as high of a point as you I guess.

But I would probably just cut back on the "game" part of it and just go for it dude. Don't BS around. Just ask her out.

 

[LE6END]

Well if they don't, they probably aren't that interest or didn't think of it as high of a point as you I guess.

But I would probably just cut back on the "game" part of it and just go for it dude. Don't BS around. Just ask her out.

^THIS. If you don't sense she's playing 'game', why should you waste time either? Go in.

I love a woman who's about her business......

In context to your situation, if you begin to see her cutting off conversations, or replying late, roll up your sleeves, and get to work.. Game her. But if she's hitting you back, and is actually contributing to conversations, go with the flow. Don't over-analyze your own moves. Be aware though, a girl who's about it at first, then sees you trying to game her, it'll hurt you.. She'll be able to tell---if at first you are consistent, then suddenly you are giving late replies, and have things you've got to do... That's just obvious and amateur. She's going to come back on it with you, and the cycle will begin.

Like Joverby said, ask her out as quick as possible. Try to avoid unnecessary games.

 

[tryst type]

What's a good way to ask them to get together? Because usually they say let's chat more first.

 

[joverby]

What's a good way to ask them to get together? Because usually they say let's chat more first.

Hmm didn't really ever get that response myself. But I would probably call them at that point. You're going to build way more rapport calling them.

Then talk for a little bit. When it starts to die down. Ask them out. You'll have a lot better results I'm sure.(As long as you act normal / cool on the phone.)

 

[Kal_Luke]

It's really cool texting people but calls are much better judging a situation. I personally prefer to start off with texts and I'm VERY good on the phone I work as an outboud sales agent but even with that kind of experience you can strike out with the nervous laugh when speaking to prey.