Texting back GF

[Fugitive]

If you text a girl and she doesn't reply to what you said but replies 4 hours later asking you "what you're doing" how should I handle it?

Should I ignore her for the same amount of time? If I do this she might get upset and be like "fine going to bed" or "are you mad at me?". How should I handle that?

She's been my GF for 1 year so not a girl I'm starting out with dating and stuff.

 

[El Payaso]

What did you text to her?

 

[Fugitive]

She does it regularly on sexual advances. She used to do it when I did beta sh*t like telling her "I love her" so I stopped that sh*t.

EDIT: it's not always but occasionally.

 

[randombrah1]

Wait the same amount of time she has waited or text tomorrow. And do this everytime she does it.

Dont be always the one to start contact, wait for her to do it.

 

[LondonTowers]

She doesn't respect you and is playing you like a fiddle. You need to shake this from the foundation. She shouldn't be treating you like this ever. Tell her your done, go NC and let her chase you and never let this kind of behaviour enter your relationship again.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Stop texting her. If she doesn't respect you enough to get back to you in a timely fashion than fück her.

I have a little personal rule myself, if a female takes more than 2 hours to text me back I don't contact said female for at least a day.

Also, sounds like you text this chick with "general conversation" or "small talk". Try to save texting if the conversation has a motive. Like setting up a meetup or getting your hoodie back you left at her house.

The occasional "how was your day"s and whatnot is fine but stop texting chicks 24/6 3sixty.

 

[Fugitive]

Thanks guys.

Its been 2 hours since she contacted me and I haven't responded. She's getting itchy and has texted a couple of times. For now going to let her stew so she realises that she can't behave like that.

 

[Fugitive]

^ 30 and you're on point. She did choose not to reply because she did come on whatsapp.

 

[Fugitive]

^ She used to check her phone every hour or so. But we had an incident when we first started dating when I was driving her home and was talking to her and she was busy on whatsapp. I asked her a question and she didn't reply. So I asked again and she just blanked me. At which point I got p*ssed off. I ripped into her and told her she has the whole week to message friends on whatsapp and it's disrespectful to be on your phone. Told her there was no point us seeing each other if that's how she behaves and she got upset and started crying and hugging me. Since then she doesn't check her phone at all unless it's an emergency.

Every time I go to leave her, she changes whatever it is that has p*ssed me off and that has kind of kept us together at times.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Unless I missed it, you still haven't told us what you text her specifically.

I saw you mention she does it usually on sexual advances.

But what did you specifically text her?


I see a lot of people giving you advice are overreacting.





PIMP

 

[Between_The_Lines]

In my experience, the girls that have really been into me have a tendency to reply promptly (and directly), even if it takes me 7 hours to get back to their original message. Has she always been like this with you? Outside of this (texting issue), do you feel like the bond is strong between you two or are you picking up signs that she may be losing attraction? If it's the former, I'd say that's a bit strange. As Mauser pointed out, girls NEVER lose sight of their phones, but if everything is smooth sailing in your relationship, then I think you have little reason to be concerned, but if she seems distant, if something seems off, if you never had this issue before, if you're getting the overall impression that she's taking you for granted, and if the sex has declined (especially if she used to make advances and now barely does so, if ever), then you may have a problem on your hands. Back off a bit and take notice of how much initiating she does (texting you, calling you, coming/asking to see you)

 

[Trump]

^ She used to check her phone every hour or so. But we had an incident when we first started dating when I was driving her home and was talking to her and she was busy on whatsapp. I asked her a question and she didn't reply. So I asked again and she just blanked me. At which point I got p*ssed off. I ripped into her and told her she has the whole week to message friends on whatsapp and it's disrespectful to be on your phone. Told her there was no point us seeing each other if that's how she behaves and she got upset and started crying and hugging me. Since then she doesn't check her phone at all unless it's an emergency.

Every time I go to leave her, she changes whatever it is that has p*ssed me off and that has kind of kept us together at times.

The issue with text is you have to keep frame. You are getting nervous because you don't have frame on your text. If you text your girlfriend, it should only be for 2 reasons.

1) to arrange, pick up, meet somewhere, get something done
2) make a comment where you don't expect a reply

Essentially don't text thinking it is witty or funny, it can be a loaded gun. :wave: