texting annoyances w social circle?

[PlatoPacks23]

when you invite people out to something and they say, "ill keep you posted"

and then never write back after.. what is that?

and then you ask them about it after the event and they're like, "oh well you could have just texted me and asked again"


.... but you said you'd keep me posted? WTF?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's their way of saying they either already have plans or aren't interested but if something changes they will let you know.

Essentially they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

It's their way of saying they either already have plans or aren't interested but if something changes they will let you know.

Essentially they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines.

why can't you just say not interested lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

why can't you just say not interested lol

Because they are waiting to see if other plans fall thru or not.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Because they are waiting to see if other plans fall thru or not.

nah it didn't sound like they had other plans, but at time said didn't feel like going out (in person)

but still if I wrote to someone afterwards "will keep you posted" I would then... keep them posted if they were going out or not

 

[BackInTheGame78]

nah it didn't sound like they had other plans, but at time said didn't feel like going out (in person)

but still if I wrote to someone afterwards "will keep you posted" I would then... keep them posted if they were going out or not

Again...you are taking things literally when it's a figure of speech.

Do you struggle with social interactions? This type of stuff doesn't happen in a vacuum. If you are misinterpreting what this type of stuff means then you are probably doing the same with other things as well.

 

[sevbucmash]

Hi Mike. How you doing bro? I'm going to girl's soccer game to look at some girl's butts, and then to a strip joint, wanna join me man? Let me know.

Yea John, I'll keep you posted.

I'm sure this could be taken as a NO. Because if Mike wanted to come with you, he'd say, Sure John, let's f'ing do it man!

 

[SW15]

they say, "ill keep you posted"

they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines.

"I'll keep you posted" is a meaningless, low interest statement from friends, acquaintances, or possible dates in the early stages.

It is rare that you would ever hear anything back from them about that specific invitation. It's your cue to make other plans.

With a platonic friend or acquaintance, there's a small chance you might hear something from them if the plans they are more interested in fall through. You have some good social credit built up with those people. With a woman that you haven't had sex with and have had fewer than 2 dates with, you aren't going to ever hear back based on her abundance and your lack of social credit with her.

 

[Jor-El]

All the above answers. Its a soft no. In any interaction like this,anything but a yes is a no. "Il think about it/il let you know/wel see/remind me next week etc = NO. Big fat juicy no! As @BackInTheGame78 says "Essentially they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines"

 

[Chow Mein]

Reading between the lines is hard for many men because it might hurt their ego.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Again...you are taking things literally when it's a figure of speech.

Do you struggle with social interactions? This type of stuff doesn't happen in a vacuum. If you are misinterpreting what this type of stuff means then you are probably doing the same with other things as well.

not particularly struggle, but I will say I am not good with a bunch of "figures of speech".

Like I looked up "keep me posted" and do not see anything similar to what you're saying (but I do agree with what you mean)

 

[BadBoy89]

it’s a power trip. They want to see how desperate you are to hang out.

I’ll keep you posted -> leaves the door open for you to ask again if they don’t get back to you. Gives then more power.

Remember men, everything in life is about who has the most power. Every sentence, every written word is about power.

Next time, put a time limit on their response.

“I’ll keep you posted”
“Let me know by 4 pm”

Your whole point is to get a yes or no from them. They don’t want to do this because it takes away their power. Hot girls are notorious for doing this.

 

[The Duke]

when you invite people out to something and they say, "ill keep you posted"

and then never write back after.. what is that?

and then you ask them about it after the event and they're like, "oh well you could have just texted me and asked again"


.... but you said you'd keep me posted? WTF?

Anything other than a YES is pretty much some variation of a "no". I agree, its weak of them. Too many maybe's, no show's, or no's and I remove them from the invite list.

 

[Solomon]

when you invite people out to something and they say, "ill keep you posted"

and then never write back after.. what is that?

and then you ask them about it after the event and they're like, "oh well you could have just texted me and asked again"


.... but you said you'd keep me posted? WTF?

It's their way of saying they either already have plans or aren't interested but if something changes they will let you know.

Essentially they expect you to have enough social sense to read between the lines.

it’s a power trip. They want to see how desperate you are to hang out.

I’ll keep you posted -> leaves the door open for you to ask again if they don’t get back to you. Gives then more power.

Remember men, everything in life is about who has the most power. Every sentence, every written word is about power.

Next time, put a time limit on their response.

“I’ll keep you posted”
“Let me know by 4 pm”

Your whole point is to get a yes or no from them. They don’t want to do this because it takes away their power. Hot girls are notorious for doing this.

Anything other than a YES is pretty much some variation of a "no". I agree, its weak of them. Too many maybe's, no show's, or no's and I remove them from the invite list.

"I'll keep you posted" is a meaningless, low interest statement from friends, acquaintances, or possible dates in the early stages.

It is rare that you would ever hear anything back from them about that specific invitation. It's your cue to make other plans.

With a platonic friend or acquaintance, there's a small chance you might hear something from them if the plans they are more interested in fall through. You have some good social credit built up with those people. With a woman that you haven't had sex with and have had fewer than 2 dates with, you aren't going to ever hear back based on her abundance and your lack of social credit with her.

All these are great answers, people will communicate like this, what makes this bad is in 2025 you have men who communicate just like women back in the day your freinds would tell you straight up yes or no, well the ones I dealt with, I noticed a shfit with men happening about a decade or a little moreso ago that some communicate just like women via text

scary ****