"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Texting and phone use

MountainSlide

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I want opinions on this because I’m learning. When dealing with women, the purpose of the phone and text message isn’t to have long riveting conversations, because it’s hard to build interest, and you’re more likely just to screw something up. You set a solid date using phone or text (time/place/day) then no contact until date. Would you guys agree with this?? Also, in order to not be stood up, it’s a good idea to confirm date the day of correct?? What’s the best message to send when confirming a date?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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elunium

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"Set the date and no contact" is a rule often given to beginners because they tend to screw things up talking to much by texting too much and having boring conversations.

Once you gain more experience you learn that texting after setting the date is even more powerful than this when you improve you texting skills and know what to text. They tend to be less flaky and it's a nice opportunity to build antecipation.

There is no "best message". But this video from Zan Perrion will open your eyes.
 
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