"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just wanted some opinions...

was texting my girlfriend today and got busy working and said "right babe need to sort some stuff out text me later on xx" to which she replied "no, you text me xx"

My gut instinct is to not bother texting her. I see it as a kind of test to see If I will or not, because she has not said anything like that before and has always text me later on!

So atm I'm thinking just wait it out and talk to her whenever she gets in touch. After all, I did tell her to text me later, and I'm not playing games by saying no you text me!!

If I dont text her then Im guessing she will be anticipating my reply...wondering why I havnt...what could I be doing...did I get the text e.t.c - in other words I'll be on her mind! Besides I do have stuff to do tonight!

May seem insignificant to some people but wanted to know if I have handled this right!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It would depend on the relationship. If it was very stable and all other interest signs are high, then I'd go ahead and text, but I'd wait a day or two.

For any other situation, I'd play it off as I'd never seen the text. You got busy, you told her what's up, she's trying to make a power ploy in the relationship. Seems like this is the latter. Really, I'd incline towards the latter regardless, as any sort of power ploy needs to be shut down.

Just go do your stuff, be busy, don't concern yourself with it and let her mull it about in her head.
 
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oh yeah it seems to be stable at the moment high interest all the time lots of sex all the usual stuff. she is usually the one to initiate texting aswell but this time she said that. She still hasnt text me, but i suspect I will get a text today. Like I said maybe its a test to see if I'll do what she wants, what she says, to see how much I like her e.t.c. so in my eyes its best to keep her guessing!
 
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