Text to remind her of tomorrows date

[Mr.Fantastic]

Do you guys text a girl the day before a first date? If so, what do you text? It was thursday that we organised to meet on monday so I think I should send her a small reminder, but don't want to send some boring 'hey, hope you havn't forgotten about tomorrow' or some other needy ****.

I was thinking something along the lines of 'hey, don't be late tomorrow, last one to arrive buys the first round! '

What do you guys text the night before you are meeting a girl?

 

[iliketennis]

i would definitely not say something that shows you're worried about her forgetting or being late

 

[Mr.Fantastic]

ANy idea what I might text then?

 

[iliketennis]

give us more information. what's the date

 

[Ease]

Id say definitely dont text.

Needy and weak from every way you look at it.

She will either text you, show up as expect or stand you up.

First 2 are fine, if she does the 3rd then punch her in the face.

 

[chance-]

no, then it'll show you have nothing else to do and you aren't busy. if she doesn't show then she wasn't obviously interested in you that much.

 

[r0cky]

I always text them the same day. Something neutral like "hey we're still on for tonight right?" A simple reminder wont make or break the date. If she doesnt want to go, shes figured that out long ago, unless your text is something really out of this world.

 

[Phat]

Just by reading your needy behavior i can already tell shes going to flake on you regardless if you text her or not.

 

[Mr.Fantastic]

ok, so the general consensus seems to be not to text. Anybody else got any idea on this? surely more people on this board go out with girls than this?? give an opinion, it wont hurt!!!

oh, and to phat - seriously not helping dude - thats like me saying 'you are on a seduction forum so you are automatically needy - you'll never get laid now!'

 

[Jitterbug]

I usually text them to tell them what to wear for the occasion. Like a certain theme, or a hat, or red boots, something to my liking that has a purpose for the place / event we're going to. It demonstrates my sense of style and gets her to work at it to qualify herself.

 

[Constantin]

I would be sending fun little bull**** flirting texts this whole time building up tension for the meet. It makes little sense to ask someone out and then want to talk to them before and not doing anything.

if you're that nervous about her flaking, like another Phat said, you might be screwed already. I know that's not practical advice though, so I'd just chill out and CALL (if i'm not joking around I call, texts are for **** that doesn't matter) to clarify some logistics of the date. By clarifying the logistics you're by default confirming the date. So listen to Jitterbug and tell her to wear her red boots!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

+1 to all the others who said NOT to text. If you did your job right and this girl is interested she won't flake bro. If she has really high interest she'll contact you to make sure its still on.

However if you must text, like the others mentioned, don't say anything like "are we still on?" that's just screaming neediness, you already agreed a couple days ago. If she's gonna flake, she's gonna flake no matter what.

Go with Jitterbug's suggestion if you text and say something neutral like "you better look good tmmrw or I'll pretend like I don't know you... LOL" so she knows your teasing her....


Don't stress on it, keep us posted.




PIMP

 

[Accension]

Don't try remind her by reminding her.

"Wear that hot dress tonight ."
She's being reminded without being reminded. Make sense?

 

[nismo-4]

Texting to remind of tomorrow's date is what the girl is supposed to do for you. You texting the girl says I'm desperate in 13 languages! It's not very effective.

If she really likes you and the attraction was there, then she won't flake anyway. If she calls or texts you, you win! OP, you text, you lose!

Case closed. Who Dat?

 

[Dante420]

If you must text ask her about something she's going to wear let her know you enjoy seeing _______ on a first date

 

[Mr.Fantastic]

yeah, I think I built quite a lot of attraction so this shouldn't be a problem. I was just wondering, since it will be like, 3 days since setting up the date whether it would be standard practice to give a little text, but now I can see that it would indeed be needy, if she needs confirmation she can text, if not it's all good.

I guess most guys would send a 'reminder text' and therefore it is probably best not to send one.

Also, if she forgets about the ****ing date then obviously she wasn't that into it!!

I can't really think of anything to text her anyway - although the comments about saying something random and then 'see you tomorrow' or telling her what to wear do seem very money, but perhaps would be more suitable for the next meeting when i know her slightly better.

 

[Kailex]

This is why I generally set up dates just 2 days in advance, or in some cases 3 days in advance. It's recent enough that you don't need "filler time" but also not too last minute. So if I had that date on Friday, I would have set it up most likely on Wednesday.

Don't text her. Trust me, she knows she has a date with you and if the IL is high, she doesn't need a reminder.

Also, texting her a reminder, no matter what is, has a 90% chance of coming across as needy, no matter what you send. So if she doesn't show up, even without the text, trust me, you already know to next her and it cost you absolutely nothing.

 

[cletus]

Do you guys text a girl the day before a first date? If so, what do you text? It was thursday that we organised to meet on monday so I think I should send her a small reminder, but don't want to send some boring 'hey, hope you havn't forgotten about tomorrow' or some other needy ****.

I was thinking something along the lines of 'hey, don't be late tomorrow, last one to arrive buys the first round! '

What do you guys text the night before you are meeting a girl?

DON'T TEXT ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It'll show you care too much and ruin any attraction you had.

If your that worried about it then call her and try and reschedule it for Tuesday. Shows your busy (good sign) and sometimes things come up. Plus now she'll have no excuse to forget.

 

[Mr.Fantastic]

ok, so people here seem to be saying not to text anything, but i asked the question on another forum and several guys said they had good sucess with a little text a few hours before the meet.

I am leaning towards no text and going on the assumption that she will remember, but several people suggested something simple like

'see you at 7 x'

which is simple and assumes that she will turn up.

thoughts?

 

[PectoralisMajor]

women LIKE to know whats going on, so by NOT texting she might feel that you have forgotten yourself, and will then be uncertain about whether its ON.

it very much depends on her personality and the interest you have built up previously as to WHAT you text.

personally, I text to confirm, even if its a date or not ! I like to confirm because my time is short.

a text isnt going to make or break the date as long as you dont say something needy, or place too much effort into it.

you can just say as most people have said already ' looking forward to tonight, see you at 7 x'

JOB DONE, now stop worrying and get on with it !!