"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I wrote before about her. Haven't seen her in 1 month. She rejected/unavailable or no response my last 2 text + she smoke so I dropped her.

Last Monday: i received a "thanks giving"... so I sent her a funny pic of a dog waiting a turkey.

3 day later (5min) ago: she responded.. "hey how are you doing, we never went for dinner. So sorry, been /busy all the time, I feel bad about"

My answer: No worries I am busy all the time, you can make it up to me today or soon. Today: studying at this place next door,than 7pm bar with girls, join me. Soon: i'll let you know.

She did respond: she can't today, at work, than class, then MBA project for tmr (she works+5 courses mba)

What you think of my text? Should I respond to her or let it go (no response like I am plainning)...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You don't do anything. Let her initiate.

Your text was too long, keep it under 7 words.
Oh you right, I didn't notice I wrote more than her. Usually want to keep it under her
 

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I wrote before about her. Haven't seen her in 1 month. She rejected/unavailable or no response my last 2 text + she smoke so I dropped her.

Last Monday: i received a "thanks giving"... so I sent her a funny pic of a dog waiting a turkey.

3 day later (5min) ago: she responded.. "hey how are you doing, we never went for dinner. So sorry, been /busy all the time, I feel bad about"

My answer: No worries I am busy all the time, you can make it up to me today or soon. Today: studying at this place next door,than 7pm bar with girls, join me. Soon: i'll let you know.

She did respond: she can't today, at work, than class, then MBA project for tmr (she works+5 courses mba)

What you think of my text? Should I respond to her or let it go (no response like I am plainning)...
Last monday when she texted "thanks giving," you should have just ignored it.
When she texted "hey we never went out for dinner," you should have just ignored it. She is looking for a free meal.

She went an entire month and ignored your last 2 attempts to talk to her. That isn't a girl with high interest. No matter how busy they are they would never leave a potential guy they are interested in that long with no communication.

Sudden contact aftet a month of silence means she blew her chances with rhe last dude she was getting free meals from so like all girls do she thought back......oh yeah.....you.

Don't be that sucker.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Last monday when she texted "thanks giving," you should have just ignored it.
When she texted "hey we never went out for dinner," you should have just ignored it. She is looking for a free meal.

She went an entire month and ignored your last 2 attempts to talk to her. That isn't a girl with high interest. No matter how busy they are they would never leave a potential guy they are interested in that long with no communication.

Sudden contact aftet a month of silence means she blew her chances with rhe last dude she was getting free meals from so like all girls do she thought back......oh yeah.....you.

Don't be that sucker.
Went NoContact after her last reply.... yeah that free meal is something I have to work on lol.

Sometimes I offer to pay cause its faster to get out lol... or she's from a culture that ''man provide (mid-east)'' .... but than.... its 2016... no girls will respect you if you pay when there is no investment.

The ball is in her court, cause she's no dating material for me

I went out Thursday night, first time in 2 months... had a good time, meet girls, meet elderly lady with amazing story who said might add me in her book about her lifestory etc... It felt good to recontact with friends after being in the books for soo long
 

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Went NoContact after her last reply.... yeah that free meal is something I have to work on lol.

Sometimes I offer to pay cause its faster to get out lol... or she's from a culture that ''man provide (mid-east)'' .... but than.... its 2016... no girls will respect you if you pay when there is no investment.

The ball is in her court, cause she's no dating material for me

I went out Thursday night, first time in 2 months... had a good time, meet girls, meet elderly lady with amazing story who said might add me in her book about her lifestory etc... It felt good to recontact with friends after being in the books for soo long
Good job. Go out have a great time party with your friends and meet new people/ladies.

This one should be in your rear view mirror real soon.
 

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Good job. Go out have a great time party with your friends and meet new people/ladies.

This one should be in your rear view mirror real soon.
Talking about rear mirror.... I was out last night, took some pictures, the girl uploaded it on facebook and tagged.... My guy friend who liked the pics calls me saying the ''girl I was with and in the pic'' added him on Facebook.

She knows me for a while, I meet her ex, she's been open to me flirting around, she invited me to hang out with her at a place of my chosing... You think she's screening my friends to social value me? Or the guy caught her attention
PS: I am sure, he added her on Facebook... he keeps teasing me about doing it lol.

It doesnt happen to me often but I found it cool... so thursday might have been good points for me.

PS2: The OP girl (the reason of this threat) will likely see the facebook picture too, since I got her on facebook. Let's see if she reacts to the pic and my NC
 

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Recently dealt with a girl like this. Tell her you're not interested and move on and don't waste your time.

Any girl that plays these back and forth text games doesn't value her own time, let alone yours.

EDIT: Looks like you already did. Good work.
 

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She was rude and ignored you and you told her that's ok? If you let women walk all over you they will.

If a woman has low interest there really isnt much you can do unless you happen to run into her out unexpectedly in public. I can't think of a single woman I've ever went out with that ignored my texts because of low interest. They start with high interest and you keep it high. Ask once or twice, then after that you give her one response or even just ignore her.

If you do respond, respond like she asked you out. When she said "we never went to dinner" respond "well I'm busy tonight but maybe another night". If she really wants to see you she'll suggest a day, otherwise you can ignore her because, like you told her, you're busy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She did respond: she can't today, at work, than class, then MBA project for tmr (she works+5 courses mba)
If you ignore the probability that she's just making excuses, this just goes to show why you don't bother with women who are too busy.
 

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Who texts about Thanksgiving when it's mid October and clearly Christmas season? ;)
 

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Who texts about Thanksgiving when it's mid October and clearly Christmas season? ;)
Canadians ... our thanksgiving is in October.... but your right... only girls who wants to be warmed up ;)
 

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She ignores you for a month... then the minute she finally responds you are available to meet her the NEXT DAY?

Don't you realize this screams "loser with no other options"?

The b!tch is constantly busy = You are not a priority to her.
You are available to meet her right away = She is your #1 priority

WAKE UP and see how your desperate behavior looks from the woman's viewpoint. There is no value in something that is too easy to get.

Spin plates. Good God..
 

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She ignores you for a month... then the minute she finally responds you are available to meet her the NEXT DAY?

Don't you realize this screams "loser with no other options"?

The b!tch is constantly busy = You are not a priority to her.
You are available to meet her right away = She is your #1 priority

WAKE UP and see how your desperate behavior looks from the woman's viewpoint. There is no value in something that is too easy to get.

Spin plates. Good God..
No worries Poon, I have someone I can call

Read above.... I am a busy person... more than her... I work 80 hours, studies at night and week-end, dance, gym, social life, voluntering... I had Thursday or Never free.... so I gave my availabilities on my terms and she took the never option. So be it.

Althought you are right on this: 1) Never propose to a girl to meet on the very same day, if you plan to date her. 2) No value in the easy

In my case... didn't give a ****... simply replied to her on my term and than her ''busy thursday response'' I never replied.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Last monday when she texted "thanks giving," you should have just ignored it.
When she texted "hey we never went out for dinner," you should have just ignored it. She is looking for a free meal.



She went an entire month and ignored your last 2 attempts to talk to her. That isn't a girl with high interest. No matter how busy they are they would never leave a potential guy they are interested in that long with no communication.

Sudden contact aftet a month of silence means she blew her chances with rhe last dude she was getting free meals from so like all girls do she thought back......oh yeah.....you.

Don't be that sucker.
The dude abides...
 
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