RBK
Senior Don Juan
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I mean it's possible but I try to avoid the situation knowingly.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Pierce Manhammer
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He wants to, otherwise why not ask? A lot of you talk about "P inflation" like you want to improve every other man's lot in life. That I doubt is true - and it's not a valid reason to decline a good piece of trim. There are other more valid ones like "she's married", or "too much drama".
You dated this chic 18 years ago. I‘ll place my bet on her reminiscing about her old college bf and her glory days in her 20s. Now married, past her prime, most likely over weight and bored with her marriage. She casts out an indirect offer to see if she can hook you for an ego boost and some attention. Maybe she doesn’t want to smash at all and honestly wants to “catch up.” Women don’t realize that guys don’t care to spend much energy on fruitless exchanges with women they are not fvcking. You might spend the weekend hearing about all the stuff her husband does and how great he is while you sit there thinking, “I thought we were going to smash or did I miss read this whole thing?”