"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Pathgen

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Same girl from this post http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=161173

If you don't want to read that here is the abridged version:
1) We make out and play with each other in her van
2) she says we should have more privacy and asks if she can come over to my house next week (i was going to be out of town until the end of next week)
3) She texts me later saying she doesn't want anything coming in between our plans for next week
4) I respond and she tells me she wanted "to" (must be referring to me trying to get her pants of so we could have sex) but the van wasn't cutting it for her.

Here is where i think i messed up. It was late at night when she sent me the second text message. Im sort of tired and just fall asleep. I text her the next day saying that im sorry i fell asleep while texting and that the van wasn't really that cool for me either.

She didn't respond to this. About three days later im coming home early so i text her saying that I am coming and she should let me know what days she is free. Still no reply.

Im wondering if she could have lost interest or did i just piss her off by not answering that night? I sent the message at 10:00 a.m. so its been 24 hours. I think i am going to just call her tomorrow, but is she blowing me off.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SHE WAS IN A SEXUAL STATE..............when chics are in that state, they so want it right then and there.

Odds are someone WHO WAS NOT TIRED took your spot............

Its on her terms at first...........U gotta facilitate her needs to establish your worthy. Getting her to respond may be futile at this point, you gotta suber charge your texts and timing may work in our favor.

Id right it off to missed opportunity and roll off..........I have found that women like this are rarely worth the expectations.
 

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your overthinking it, if she was attracted before chances are shes still attracted. maybe her phone broke, or the text never went through. Try calling her at a time you think she'll answer her phone. If you don't think you did anything wrong then chances are you didn't. Only way to find out is shes blowing you off is to call her,
 

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YA lets just see WHO'S ADVICE IS DEAD ON
 

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I see both your sides... and i can honestly say that im not sure which is the correct advice.

However, COD, if she was horny once won't she be horny again? I think i should just call her tommorow and see whats up. Worse case im in the same place I am today. To be honest im mostly worried that she found someone who lives closer to her to satisfy her needs. She is about 20 min away from my house (not very far when we are in college). If that is the case not much i can really do about that
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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our overthinking it, if she was attracted before chances are shes still attracted.
This is very true.
Attraction is like energy, and energy is never lost merely transformed.
So in theory up your game and throw more logs on the fire of attraction.

o be honest im mostly worried that she found someone who lives closer to her to satisfy her needs.
Do you really want any kind of relations (sex or other) with a chick like this? someone who will up n run at the first hurdle.
If your instinct is right... which none of us can judge otherwise, I suggest you look for other women. You'd be surprised with what you find.
 

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Pathgen said:
Same girl from this post http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=161173

If you don't want to read that here is the abridged version:
1) We make out and play with each other in her van
2) she says we should have more privacy and asks if she can come over to my house next week (i was going to be out of town until the end of next week)
3) She texts me later saying she doesn't want anything coming in between our plans for next week
4) I respond and she tells me she wanted "to" (must be referring to me trying to get her pants of so we could have sex) but the van wasn't cutting it for her.

Here is where i think i messed up. It was late at night when she sent me the second text message. Im sort of tired and just fall asleep. I text her the next day saying that im sorry i fell asleep while texting and that the van wasn't really that cool for me either.

She didn't respond to this. About three days later im coming home early so i text her saying that I am coming and she should let me know what days she is free. Still no reply.

Im wondering if she could have lost interest or did i just piss her off by not answering that night? I sent the message at 10:00 a.m. so its been 24 hours. I think i am going to just call her tomorrow, but is she blowing me off.
COD is right. Again, this is where so many guys get confused when they try to have sex with a girl they like. They think love is conditional and because they made out with her before, they will be able to make out with her again at anytime.

Doesn't happen like that. You can't be in the mood when you are in the mood. If you are tired, you apologize and tell her. You don't not reply thinking she'll be there for you the next day at your whim. You have to make her feel important, special, sexy RIGHT THEN AND THERE when she's in the mood. Not deliver a text message 12 hours later saying having sex in a van isn't good for you either, that will break the deal faster than a twig.
 

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Just wanted to say that COD and DonJuan11 were right. I called her today and she didn't pick up and then an hour later i got a text message saying some bs about how i was a nice guy but she doesnt want to get emotionally attached and we should just be friends.

Well this is a lesson learned and its actually a relief that she responded. I can't say that i am not disappointed, but this way i get a bit of closure and I can write her off for sure.
 

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Pathgen said:
Here is where i think i messed up. It was late at night when she sent me the second text message. Im sort of tired and just fall asleep. I text her the next day saying that im sorry i fell asleep while texting and that the van wasn't really that cool for me either.

A few tips in communicating with women. No need to apologise all the time. Also try to be less formal. Be more fun its not a job interview. Also its ok to not agree on things. If she says she doesn't like the van theres no need for you to say it too if its not how you feel. Agreeing too much is a big AFC sign.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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