"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Text Message Carpet Bombing & the Ultimate C&F Valentine SMS

AsianPlayboy

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I've said this many times before and I'll say it again. I'm a very lazy Pick Up Artist.

I have one goal when I go out. To have FUN. And part of having fun is getting laid. With the least amount of work. And texting girls (1 to 20 at a time) requires almost NO effort...

So, some rules when it comes to text message hook ups:

1. NEVER delete a number. Seriously, I subscribe to TD's old maxim. You cannot TRULY next a girl until you've slept with her. Otherwise, her non-response is actually HER choice. Not yours.

2. Text every week or so. Rotate through numbers from the fresh & active to the defunct & random. I've hooked up with girls that were 6 months+ old leads. The nice thing is, obviously the phone-close wasn't great back then, but they've forgotten and you can make another strong impression.

3. The structure of a typical text message convo (with 12 to 30 girls) is a ****y and funny opener, followed by some comfort building (hey, what's up, blah blah) and a SPECIFIC meetup.

4. Say you start with 10 #-closes from last week. Solid to so-so. Text all 10. 8 responses back laughing at your C&F text opener. Comfort building. Goes to 6. Work out the logistics. Go for the meet. 3 or 2. Decide between them who you see that night and who you see tomorrow.

5. Seriously, with all my traveling, I have NO time to do Phone Game (and it was never my strong point anyways) with a girl I haven't done a SNL (Same Night Lay). I don't do relationships (even short ones) so my reasons for doing this are probably different from yours. But whatever your goal is, this takes little effort, little investment, and will allow you to hook up every week.

6. The Ultimate Valentines C&F text: "Happy Valentines day! I know its a bit early but I have thousands of sexy friends so I'm starting with tha ugliest ones first! - <INSERT NAME>"

7. Non-response you can use, "Hey, I don't understand what I didn't hear."

8. **** with their mind SOI (Statement of Interest), "I was thinking about you..." Comfort building should last no more than 3 to 5 texts on yours/hers part.

9. To the random, non-sequitor neg, "You're silly."

10. And for the actual meet (and ALWAYS go for the meet no matter what), just to make her jump through a final hoop as well as make logistics easier, I always tell her, "Text me when you get there..."

11. Finally, no texting afterhours UNLESS you've bagged her. Then it just becomes a desperate, last ditch booty call.

Works for me.

But your mileage may vary.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Incog

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AsianPlayboy said:
10. And for the actual meet (and ALWAYS go for the meet no matter what), just to make her jump through a final hoop as well as make logistics easier, I always tell her, "Text me when you get there..."
I agree that text messaging can be very powerful is used properly. Would you mind providing an example on your specific approach when you text for the meet? I usually go with "You're coming with me to (PLACE)" or "I'm going to (PLACE), come with me"
 

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Yo Troops!



I like the idea. If it's successful, you can get RESULTS with minimum effort. And even if it fails...at the very least, you'll facilitate some closure. I've gone on missions like THIS before, soldiers:

HOLIDAY TEXT BOMBS!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=100399

Bombs Away!!!!!
 

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I've played frustrating message tag with women in the past, but the first time I just texted a girl, "Hello NAME. Meet me Friday 7pm at Blah Cafe. -Boschy" she actually accepted immediately and followed-through. So the specific invite idea is good (standard date-asking technique really).

If she can't meet up on that day, accuse her for doing something dull like having her curtains vacuumed.

The 'write' words can certainly make a difference. :) Good post.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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