Text game to make her obsess over you?

[jnMissouri]

So this girl I've been dating for a few months, we've had a few occasions even a month or two in where I don't respond to her text that day or she doesn't respond to my text that day but in both cases we both text the other person again the next day (and in many cases she would text me again the same night to see why I wasn't responding, but usually the next morning).

That was months ago. Right now she is away visiting family and her texts have slowed down (I've talked to her family BTW). We text almost every day still, but I skip some days...She also skips some days when I text her though usually when it's a benign text. I skipped Sunday for example. She skipped Wednesday. Of course this drives me WILD wondering what she is doing, why she hasn't responded, etc. and I begin to obsess over her. I'm hoping I strike the balance and do the same to her without pulling back too far. Keep in mind 95% of the time we both respond to each other throughout the day.

But I'm wondering, will it make her obsess over me if I ignore her text telling me she is thinking about me and asks how my day was, like I obsess over her when she doesn't text back to a benign "hope you're feeling better" text" I send her? Or will she react the opposite?

I skipped a day earlier this week and she skipped a day earlier this week. I know they say to disappear mid conversation, don't text her every day, don't always answer her texts, etc. But I have noticed that with some women if you don't text them back the same day they disappear. Much worse than texting them too much almost. So I'm wondering should I ignore her text today and wait for her reach out to me again or answer her text for tonight and THEN don't text her again until she texts me again, even if it's a couple of days? I think either one would have the same effect, but texting her back tonight would be safest since it wouldn't rock the boat too much while still kind of pulling back and waiting for her to text me again and let her wonder why I'm not texting her for a day or two?

 

[Serenity]

Jesus!!! You're obsessing HARD about her! Normal chilled out people don't give a fvck about texting frequency. Whatever you do, it will be the wrong thing to do because it comes from the wrong frame.

Text game doesn't exist, if you think it does then it's all just in your head. Texting is best used for logistics, not empty conversation. Game is what you do when she's physically with you, text is what you use to get her physically present with you.

The only one being gamed here appears to be you.

 

[Glassguy]

OP is a try hard. Always trying to impress the anonymous people on this forum.

What does that tell me? He's clueless, there is no woman and he just wants to "fit in" here.

Slow down cowboy. You have so much to learn that it's not even funny......yet it still is funny.

He doesnt understand the simplest of dating game yet tries to give others advice. Smdh.

 

[SoSuave666]

When this woman inevitably breaks up with you it's going to be a fantastic post. Not that I wish that pain on anyone, because breakups hurt like a MFer. You just need more experience. You continue to make the same mistakes no matter what advice you get here...and it's only been a few months. You asked her to move in with you. You chat it up with her on the phone non stop every day. You play little games like skipping days and keep track of her skipping patterns. You probably have a calendar devoted to every interaction you have with this woman.

Don't you have things to do outside of your life with her? If she's away on vacation it's the perfect opportunity to give her time to miss you.

 

[Glassguy]

Its called: OP has no life.

 

[Robert28]

You’re thinking way too much about what your next move is with this girl. This stuff should be natural, not planned. I bet you $100 she can tell your actions are planned and not genuine.

 

[jnMissouri]

Actually we text more now than before. She called me four times yesterday. Texted me all day. I didn't answer because I was busy, except the texts. We've already shared we are in love with each other. Relationships are temporary, they may last a few months or a few decades. But I'm enjoying the ride with this one.