Text game - this can help a lot of guys!

[skinnyguy]

My fatal mistake in texting during the last few years has been trying to get a girl out asap. I tried to sidetrack the chit chat and get her out to a bar. It hasn't worked out very well.

Lately, I've been trying a different strategy. I've been asking her stuff like which DJs she likes, where she has traveled, etc to find out what her preferences are. Throughout this texting, she is becoming more comfortable with me while I am finding out what she will be more likely to say "yes" to.

So I don't know if other guys are making the same mistake that I did, but don't go for the date right away. Patience is key. Women can sense if you're desperate SOO easily so don't show all your cards right away.

 

[user name]

The success rate of your technique please.

How many dates have you secured?

 

[TheGambino]

That's crap man, go for a 5min chit chat and arrange a date man. It only shows that you don't waste time on texting and that you only spend time face 2 face.
Too much blabla will only make you f*ck it up

 

[LP700-4]

I believe this is all context dependent. Say for example, you met her online and you guys have chatted for a long time and you finally get her number. No point wasting time texting to get comfortable, she already is. Just ask her out.

If you met her through a cold approach and barely had time to talk BUT got her number then you want to call or text for a bit before asking her out unless you know for sure she's very much into you then just ask her out.

 

[TheCWord]

I've never, in history, heard of text messages making a girl feel more comfortable going out with you.

She's either interested or she ain't. It's not like she's thinking, "Well, I wasn't sure about going out with this virtual stranger before, but now that he knows who my favorite DJ is..."

 

[kraytkiller]

I've never, in history, heard of text messages making a girl feel more comfortable going out with you.

She's either interested or she ain't. It's not like she's thinking, "Well, I wasn't sure about going out with this virtual stranger before, but now that he knows who my favorite DJ is..."

This is a negative mindset I've noticed many people express when they talk about the text game. I have personally saved dates and meets that led to hookups based solely on my intuition that they needed more rapport or comfort with me, solely using text messages.

 

[Jay Dee]

The rub is, the amount of chat won't affect whether you get the pu$$y, it's down to whether you make her tingle when she gets the text(s).

If you don't, then she's less likely to want to go out with you unless she's bored/seeking attention.

If you make her tingle, then the opposite occurs, she's more likely to want to step out with you and things will happen.

So it's all down to how she perceives you the first time she met you - make sure you are at your best, presentable, confident etc before getting the digits.

You really don't want to comfort her too much because that's what friends do - stay mysterious, unknown, challenging.

 

[Uncharted]

I guess it depends how well you know her. If you approach a girl, talk for 2 minutes, get number, then text "lets get drinks", I can't see a high hit-rate.

A few texts back and forth just to say what's up is cool for me. I don't think it hurts much. Just don't over-do it.

Also - don't wait TOO long. I met a girl once at a bar that I texted back and forth for a few WEEKS (not a lot of texting, just a lot of time between conversations). When I finally asked her out, she said she had a boyfriend. Then a month later when they broke up and we finally went out, she told me that she wanted to go out with me before her boyfriend, but I didn't make a move so she started dating that guy.

Oops. Lesson learned. Don't do it too quickly but don't drag your feet.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I have personally saved dates and meets that led to hookups based solely on my intuition that they needed more rapport or comfort with me, solely using text messages.

Same here. Texting can be like a conversation, or writing letters in the days of yor. Half the time these days, ecspecially if you meet them online, your first time you actually hear their voice is on that first date.

You definitely can use texting to your advantage. Girls will tell you things over text they wouldn't normally tell you face to face or on a phone call. Once you know her buttons it's actually pretty easy to turn texting into sexting, at that point she's asking you when you two are going to see each other. Attraction built, juices flowing.....all because of some well written texts

 

[JoeMarron]

You definitely can use texting to your advantage. Girls will tell you things over text they wouldn't normally tell you face to face or on a phone call. Once you know her buttons it's actually pretty easy to turn texting into sexting, at that point she's asking you when you two are going to see each other. Attraction built, juices flowing.....all because of some well written texts

Agreed. Sexting is quite powerful. Put a few vivid descriptions in her head and she'll be lusting after you in no time.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Rex Has Said It Once and Will Say It Again...

"Text Game," is in the same category as unicorns, El Dorado, the Fountain of Youth, and The Grassy Knoll shooter.

 

[VladPatton]

Only when you don't know her. If you've met and spoken with her before at a social event, this is would drag it out too long. Remember, he who hesitates masturbates.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

"Text Game," is in the same category as unicorns, El Dorado, the Fountain of Youth, and The Grassy Knoll shooter.

okay, let's dive into this a little bit:

Why? Because they are written words? Does that mean they are meaningless? Have you ever had an emotional response because of something you've read? Are you telling me that, while reading something, you've never laughed, or gotten mad, or aroused perhaps?

I'm going to point out a few examples:

-Erotic Literature
-Poems
-Books
-Magazines


And the most obvious:
-ONLINE FORUMS - I'm sure there's posters you like on here, and I'm sure there's posters you don't like. All because of communicating through written words.

Texting is communicating. It can be an art form, and it can work for some and not work for others. But....it can work.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I Planned on Doing A Tread on This

okay, let's dive into this a little bit:

Why? Because they are written words? Does that mean they are meaningless? Have you ever had an emotional response because of something you've read? Are you telling me that, while reading something, you've never laughed, or gotten mad, or aroused perhaps?

I was planning to do this topic and I'll start the thread tomorrow, but long story short on why texting is ineffective

1) You can't get an accurate gauge of her interest level.

2) You don't have 100% of her attention.

3) Due to the less confrontational nature of texting, it makes chicks even more inclined to lie to you.

4) Too many dudes are using texting as a crutch to avoid direction contact with a woman until it's absolutely necessary, which is hella gay.

I'm going to point out a few examples:

-Erotic Literature
-Poems
-Books
-Magazines

And the most obvious:
-ONLINE FORUMS - I'm sure there's posters you like on here, and I'm sure there's posters you don't like. All because of communicating through written words.

Yeah, but you're forgetting, which those examples it's coming from an author to a general audience, however, if you're a random dude trying to do this to get a chick interested in you and she has no interest in you, it's going to freak her out.

Texting is communicating. It can be an art form, and it can work for some and not work for others. But....it can work.

Yeah, it can work in a very limited and precise use.

I was planning to do this topic and I'll start the thread tomorrow, but long story short on why texting is ineffective

1) You can't get an accurate gauge of her interest level.

2) You don't have 100% of her attention.

3) Due to the less confrontational nature of texting, it makes chicks even more inclined to lie to you.

 

[kraytkiller]

Woah. Totally wrong thread.

 

[TheGambino]

Kray can you give me some advice on texting. Especially when you numberclose and text her before asking her out. What stuff do you text ? You're so sure of your text skills share youre knowledge then

 

[Starfvcks 64]

I feel like I have decent "text game" and that's simply because I text AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE.

That's sort of the absurdity of it. Text game does exist, but it's only affective by NOT texting.

I've read some interesting things about text game. Krauser always posts interesting examples.
Sometimes I've seen very similar texts on his site with conversation exactly like mine. Sometimes I've "stolen" his lines and had great (and near identical) responses.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Really Dude?

Lately, I've been trying a different strategy. I've been asking her stuff like which DJs she likes

She probably said, PrettyBoyAJ, Social_Leper, Solomon, nimso-4, bradd88, ( . ) ( . ), Atom Smasher, Purefilth, HumbleNinja, PlayHer Man, RoyalFlushPair, and Maximus Rex, and when she's feeling down and needs a good laugh pryos.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

1) You can't get an accurate gauge of her interest level.

I believe you can. If she's snap texting you, and you two are having a long conversation, then she's probably interested.

2) You don't have 100% of her attention.

Not always, like when she's texting you from work...and can't talk to you on the phone. But for late at night see answer above.

3) Due to the less confrontational nature of texting, it makes chicks even more inclined to lie to you.

I think it's easier for them to tell it to you straight through texts, then on the phone or face to face. Ever heard of the Dear John letter? Now a days it's the Dear John text. Which is lame IMO, but it's the way of the world these days.

4) Too many dudes are using texting as a crutch to avoid direction contact with a woman until it's absolutely necessary, which is hella gay.[/

It can be used as a crutch, yes, I agree. I like talking to chicks on the phone, but I also don't mind texting them. It's not always convenient for the two of you to find time to talk on the phone and have a long drawn out conversation. It may be used as a crutch....but it can also be used as a tool

Yeah, but you're forgetting, which those examples it's coming from an author to a general audience, however, if you're a random dude trying to do this to get a chick interested in you and she has no interest in you, it's going to freak her out.

Think about what you're saying. An author is speaking to a general audience...and they're listening. If you're doing it right, you should be able to gear the conversation to one individual.....

Yeah, it can work in a very limited and precise use.

Limited maybe. But used at the right times, it can work wonders. Some people aren't comfortable with it. Some are. I'm surprised more posters on this board aren't texting more, considering, on here, they're communicating through writing....

I was planning to do this topic and I'll start the thread tomorrow, but long story short on why texting is ineffective

...ineffective for you. Not me

 

[kraytkiller]

Kray can you give me some advice on texting. Especially when you numberclose and text her before asking her out. What stuff do you text ? You're so sure of your text skills share youre knowledge then

I'll write up a thread on it later tonight or tomorrow. Just gunna go cook dinner. Be on the lookout.