"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Text Drama: Attitude Change

slickaz

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quick question.

What does this mean.

I write alot of poems or songs.

some of them are good.
alot of them are for that special somebody.

since ive had this LTR.
ive been writing mostly for her.

She went on my facebook and found that some guy friends of mine, were copying what i had written for her on FB and using it on their girls. she asked if i could take them all down because they were for her and no other girl.
so i did.

she went to check on FB if they were all down, and found some poems that i had written before her time with me.

she got mad, because she thought she was the only one i wrote for.
I have written in the past, but for noone specific.
anyway

she see's this and goes into a fit.
i get replies to my texts like:
Am i meant to care if you had a good day at work?

i couldnt call as i was at work,so i texted back:

Why the sudden attitude?

She: Just dont text me!

so i texted and said: what happened?


She: Whatever!

I did NOT reply

she: Bye!

So i didnt reply at all.

then i get a text.

I was sleeping so i didnt text you.

so i rung her, like she has NEVER been like this. NEVER
and i NEVER expected this kind of DRAMA from her.


she got defensive like i saw you have written stuff for other girls..and im very possesive of you. i didnt like it.

i lost it and got logical.
and said
so, ur saying, you want me SO bad, that you're willing to lose me because of something i wrote before you and me got together? and you assume it was for another girl?

she said: i never thought of it that way.

me: well you should, because this attitude is going to set us on a course away from each other.

she: im sorry baby, i didnt think i guess im scared im going to get hurt. please dont hurt me baby.

me: sweety, by anticipating that ur gonna get hurt, ur changing ur persona towards me, which is only going to drive us apart if we start to argue over the silliest of things..i know you love the making up but cmon! lets avoid that track for now.

she: k, im sorry, im really sorry baby.i got scared.

me: so hey, did you smile today? why?
changed the topic to have her smiling again..

im trying to make sure that every minute she is with me is only filled with happiness not that fear of getting hurt.

but this attitude is something i will not accept.

what do you all think?
what should i do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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slickaz

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Thanks bro, i thought i fumbled..
i just find that this attitude change is funny.
i never expected her to say the things she said to me.
with the texts, like dont text me, etc etc.

i find that a huge change in her way, which is worrying me.
i already wanna jump out of it now.

so im not sure how to, but also if i should jump out at all or not?

ive never been through girls with an attitude change this serious within a matter of hours. from being extremely happy and loving to being rude.

how do i stop it from happening again?
do i warn her? do i not? overlook this event and not make a big deal about it?
wait for the next time and then use that as a reason to eject?

ive already got 2 plates lined up ready to fill in, so im safe about getting s3x every night a week if i eject from her..
so i dont have a problem im only staying because i like her as a person..
but that seems to be changing..slowly.
 

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SHE'S A WOMAN. They are naturally unstable and unsure about things, and it's your job to be the rock which is why I congratulated you on what you did.
 

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yeh but thats not an excuse to get away with acting like that.

i mean that must have some repercussions right?
you cant just tell someone stuff like, leave me alone!!! BYE!!! n DONT TEXT ME!
and then say sorry and think its all sweet.
coz if she can do it now, whats the bet she wont do it again?

i let it go this time, with not much drama, but one more outburst and im deleting her number.
is that fair?

if it happens again, shall i say, im sorry sweetheart i cant work with this attitude change you got going on?
 

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slickaz said:
yeh but thats not an excuse to get away with acting like that.

i mean that must have some repercussions right?
you cant just tell someone stuff like, leave me alone!!! BYE!!! n DONT TEXT ME!
and then say sorry and think its all sweet.
coz if she can do it now, whats the bet she wont do it again?

i let it go this time, with not much drama, but one more outburst and im deleting her number.
is that fair?

if it happens again, shall i say, im sorry sweetheart i cant work with this attitude change you got going on?
Just look at the conversation:

"she said: i never thought of it that way.

me: well you should, because this attitude is going to set us on a course away from each other.

she: im sorry baby, i didnt think i guess im scared im going to get hurt. please dont hurt me baby.

me: sweety, by anticipating that ur gonna get hurt, ur changing ur persona towards me, which is only going to drive us apart if we start to argue over the silliest of things..i know you love the making up but cmon! lets avoid that track for now.

she: k, im sorry, im really sorry baby.i got scared."


It seems she's already afraid to do it again, you put her in her place and didn't take that **** from her, well done.
 

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You did right. But, the way she was acting.. She may cling to you pretty hard and fast.
 

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text for a reason call for a reason, a ton of people still use the cell phone as entertainment device and for that reason alone you invite problems that many are ill equiped to handle.

Like If you text something sexual...which is cool...but then IMMEDIETLY text another statement to switch the subject, you plant a seed to get her mind into a state of readiness.

Theres a fine art to texting and the psychological decoys work wonders.

anyways time to write a another cool article,,,,,,,,
 
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