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Master Don Juan
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In response to a current thread, I'd like to share a convo I'm having with a chick who gave me her number off Tinder.
Background: Haven't met her yet, got her number roughly three weeks ago. I tried to set a date twice with her at the beginning, but both times she already had plans and even admitted that one of them was a date. Her interest level still seemed high at times, inbetween all that she was sending me pics of herself, and keeping things somewhat flirty over texts. And even after her date she texted me with what seemed like a booty text. After a while, through random multiple conversations, I came to the conclusion she was doing some type of push/pull with me.....like sending me pics then asking me why I would want to date her, that kind of thing. Insecure AW behavior, so I went ghost on her for a few weeks, then threw her a line two days ago.
Me: What up
Her (next day): Not too much....how are you?
Her: I figured that you'd written me off!
Me: Nah, just been busy.
Me: You should send me a pic
Her: Of what?
Me: Of a sunset
Her: Smartass
Her: *sends selfie*
Me: are you lying in bed there?
Her: I was
Me: were you thinking about me?
Her: Nope
Me: Ha! you should have played along.
Me: Maybe some other time.
enter $hit tests
Her: You've done nothing to make me think that you want me....
Her: I'm a girl that needs attention....otherwise I'll look elsewhere
Me: Thanks for the tip
Her: Uh huh....just trying to be helpful. I liked you and you disappeared on me.
Her: I hate getting all worked up...and then disappointment.
Me:K
That was all during the day, yesterday. Then...
Her(9pm): Too bad you're so busy.
No response last night on my part (I wouldn't have been able to meet her anyway if it came to that). so today I decide to throw her a little rope.
Me : I'd still like to see you Maybe we can work something out.
Her: I've got tonight free.
Her: Late
Me: I'd like to, but I can't tonight.
Her: You're so busy...
Me: Ha, I know, I'm not making it up!
And that's where it's at right now. $hit test city on her part. As you can see she plays the part of helpless dame pretty well, looking for compliments and even asking for attention (literally). But, like all women, they want it, but they want the guy that doesn't give it to them. I wasn't lying about being busy either, I'm working a lot, sometimes all nighters.
I know some of you guys will think I acted like a chump for putting up with her crap at the beginning and for not giving her the hard Next....However, I feel it's the guy's responsibility to make the first meeting happen. I feel it's okay to pursue to a degree, and that it's still possible to do so while keeping a strong frame. Once you get that first or second date out of the way, then if her interest is not there, then you next her. With this one however, she's screaming FB, and even told me on a prior conversation, after some light sexual innuendos, that she just wants a guy around to molest (actual words). The problem is finding a time when we're both free. In the beginning, her interest level wasn't steady, it was easily swayed between high and low for me, even admitting she couldn't meet because she had another date. Now, her IL is HIGH and more steady, I've proved myself not to be a pushover or a chump (IMO), and I have a feeling that even if she did have a date with another guy, she'd flake on him in order to meet me. Now she's going to make time for me.
Edited the second to last sentence, confused myself there.
Background: Haven't met her yet, got her number roughly three weeks ago. I tried to set a date twice with her at the beginning, but both times she already had plans and even admitted that one of them was a date. Her interest level still seemed high at times, inbetween all that she was sending me pics of herself, and keeping things somewhat flirty over texts. And even after her date she texted me with what seemed like a booty text. After a while, through random multiple conversations, I came to the conclusion she was doing some type of push/pull with me.....like sending me pics then asking me why I would want to date her, that kind of thing. Insecure AW behavior, so I went ghost on her for a few weeks, then threw her a line two days ago.
Me: What up
Her (next day): Not too much....how are you?
Her: I figured that you'd written me off!
Me: Nah, just been busy.
Me: You should send me a pic
Her: Of what?
Me: Of a sunset
Her: Smartass
Her: *sends selfie*
Me: are you lying in bed there?
Her: I was
Me: were you thinking about me?
Her: Nope
Me: Ha! you should have played along.
Me: Maybe some other time.
enter $hit tests
Her: You've done nothing to make me think that you want me....
Her: I'm a girl that needs attention....otherwise I'll look elsewhere
Me: Thanks for the tip
Her: Uh huh....just trying to be helpful. I liked you and you disappeared on me.
Her: I hate getting all worked up...and then disappointment.
Me:K
That was all during the day, yesterday. Then...
Her(9pm): Too bad you're so busy.
No response last night on my part (I wouldn't have been able to meet her anyway if it came to that). so today I decide to throw her a little rope.
Me : I'd still like to see you Maybe we can work something out.
Her: I've got tonight free.
Her: Late
Me: I'd like to, but I can't tonight.
Her: You're so busy...
Me: Ha, I know, I'm not making it up!
And that's where it's at right now. $hit test city on her part. As you can see she plays the part of helpless dame pretty well, looking for compliments and even asking for attention (literally). But, like all women, they want it, but they want the guy that doesn't give it to them. I wasn't lying about being busy either, I'm working a lot, sometimes all nighters.
I know some of you guys will think I acted like a chump for putting up with her crap at the beginning and for not giving her the hard Next....However, I feel it's the guy's responsibility to make the first meeting happen. I feel it's okay to pursue to a degree, and that it's still possible to do so while keeping a strong frame. Once you get that first or second date out of the way, then if her interest is not there, then you next her. With this one however, she's screaming FB, and even told me on a prior conversation, after some light sexual innuendos, that she just wants a guy around to molest (actual words). The problem is finding a time when we're both free. In the beginning, her interest level wasn't steady, it was easily swayed between high and low for me, even admitting she couldn't meet because she had another date. Now, her IL is HIGH and more steady, I've proved myself not to be a pushover or a chump (IMO), and I have a feeling that even if she did have a date with another guy, she'd flake on him in order to meet me. Now she's going to make time for me.
Edited the second to last sentence, confused myself there.
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