"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Did you mean it's difficult to just do the phone thing and kill the texting game? Or did you mean it's difficult to implement the text game?
I meant that it is difficult to kill the texting because some people won't pick up a phone for voice conversation purposes.
 

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I meant that it is difficult to kill the texting because some people won't pick up a phone for voice conversation purposes.
Yeah that makes sense. I will need to work on both things. Thanks for your input
 

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I have this problem that my identity/style in my native language (Swedish) and in particular over text, is very unsexy, dry, formal, un-charming at the moment. With English it's much better (sexting etc.). It feels like in Swedish-mode it's much harder. If I wrote or said what @Velasco did in Swedish, I'd get ghosted/***** slapped/metoo'd/etc. It feels that way for me. English is cooler -- the wealth of movies with 'heroes' of various kind.

I guess my task is to find some steamy/charming Swedish identity that works for escalation and text game.

@PowerQuest, you're a Scandinavian too. What's your perspective on this? Any tips on Swedish movies?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stop trying to game over text. It’s a losing battle. You have to game her in person.
Yes, I agree. I'm all right in person, it's Swedish over text that is a concern. I don't try to game over text, but my experience is that girls want to warm up at least a little bit over text. I.e, not set up date on first message, but after maybe 3-4 messages.

This thread is on the texting topic too:
 

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Yes, I agree. I'm all right in person, it's Swedish over text that is a concern. I don't try to game over text, but my experience is that girls want to warm up at least a little bit over text. I.e, not set up date on first message, but after maybe 3-4 messages.
I posted my script I used for 3 years in another thread. Modify it to your liking:


Hey how are you?

I’m fine. You?

Glad to hear. I am well.. just planning my next trip. Did you travel often before the pandemic?

Yes, blah blah blah (woman speak)

Oh cool! Where was your last memorable trip?

I went to Mexico. It was blah blah blah

Nice. I’ve never been to Mexico. Tell me about it over a drink?

That sounds fun. (At this point roughly 30% of girls would comment how smooth the Segway into a date was)

Great, let’s meet at Bobs bar Thursday at 7 pm. Sound good?
Bobs Bar
Street Name
City, State, Zip

Ok

Is that a yes?

Yes.

Great, so I will see you there?

Yes!

Perfect. See you there 888-888-8888 if you need to reach me.

Thanks EyeBRollin. 999-999-9999
 

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Text One: "Hey girl. How´s ur weekend going?" When matching during weekend. If matching Monday/Tuesday it was "Hey girl. How was your weekend?". If matching Wednesday/Thursday "Hey girl. Any cool plans for the upcoming weekend?"
Her: Bla bla bla

Next text: "Cool. What do you enjoy doing with your free time?"
Her: bla bla bla

If we have suff in common:

"Looks like we have a lot in common. Im craving my favorite sushi place, wanna meet 5:30ish pm next saturday?" Maybe Im implying that since we have stuff in common I wanna get to know her better.

If we dont have that much in common:

"I live in X city by Y mall. Anything interesting near your house?"
Her: Bla bla bla
"My favorite Burger place is very close to your house. Wanna meet Next saturday evening and grab a bite?"


If there was a new movie I actually wanted to see.
"I wanna watch the new Marvel movie. Lets go on day 1 to avoid spoilers. My favorite movie place has a show at 6pm"

No long texts. No double texting. No over-talking or over-sharing. STFU, Keep it simple and more or less mirror her response time.

So she showed up at the date. Cool. At the end tell her something like "Text me when u are home safe". When she texts u shes home, I just reply "Descansa" which is similar to have a good nights sleep or something like that. Dissappear 1-3 days and ask her out again.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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