Texing a Girl From Last Night

[BPH]

Ok so I went to a dance last night, got this girl's number, and made out with her on the dancefloor...I started texting her today:

Me: Hey cutie
2 hours later
Me: Hey if Im not busy tomorrow do you wanna come bowling?
Her: Hey sorry I was at lax practice, and i cant im busy
Me: Ok well i dont think i can do anything today...come hang out fridday
Her: Cant in the musical and that is opening night, oh and i play a dancing *****/ stripper so yea

I'm thinking about what I want to do with this conversation. I know it's going badly because she blew off my 2 days for a date, but I'm not sure if I can do anything good with this...

Anybody offer some help?

 

[neghitzbrah]

Don't text bro... call her and only offer to chill once. The second time makes you look desperate.

Also, when you call you create some small talk first and fluff, then you drop the hangout. Getting straight to the point never works... think of it like fvckng a girl. You dont just put it in, you do foreplay.

 

[rum]

I would've waited longer to text or call her...let the memory of you burn into her brain a little more.

You moved in too fast and now she might be overwhelmed

In her head it's "uh oh, overnight I've got a guy honing in hot and heavy" her instinct is to retreat

Wait a week, then try again. If she rejects you a 3rd time...then she was just looking to make out on the dance floor. Nothing more.

 

[BPH]

I just realized I spelled "Texting" as Texing...

Anyway a little update after what she said...

Me: Ahh so thats what you were practicing on me last night?
Her: Ha you could say that

@neghitzbrah: No offense but I've read some of your posts and you don't sound much better at this kinda stuff than me.

@Everyone else: Is it worth continuing talking to this chick? I feel like I'm f***in up but I want the opinions of my betters...

 

[neghitzbrah]

@neghitzbrah: No offense but I've read some of your posts and you don't sound much better at this kinda stuff than me.

None taken. I know I'm not pimp or anything, I'm just letting you know how I'd do it. Of course everyone has their own style and whatever works for you, just keep at it. Good luck with the girl dude. Let us know what happens.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I just realized I spelled "Texting" as Texing...

Anyway a little update after what she said...

Me: Ahh so thats what you were practicing on me last night?
Her: Ha you could say that

@neghitzbrah: No offense but I've read some of your posts and you don't sound much better at this kinda stuff than me.

@Everyone else: Is it worth continuing talking to this chick? I feel like I'm f***in up but I want the opinions of my betters...

BPH: You got some good advice in this thread already. While I don't subscribe to all the "rules" that you will read on this site, one of the things you will learn over the years is how to make a KILLER first impression. Regardless of where you meet a chick, you want to really get her buying what your putting down on that first night. Once you get this, the rest is easy....

Meaning, it won't matter when you call, (2 days, 1 day, 3 days etc) to set up the next meeting. But that definitely comes with experience and maturity. The girls your dealing with are likely to be incredibly immature and like what they can't have.

The advice you got from Neghits is spot on.... You asked this chick out twice and she rejected both your offers and didn't counter offer. Not a good sign. Remember a drunk make out session doesn't really mean much if anything in these times.

Lastly, you never want to set up a date so far in advance unless you have:

a) already banged the girl

b) she has sky high interest in you

You run a high chance of getting flakes, "forgetting" etc when you set up a date so far in advance, which just really circles back to my main point; get good at making a killer first impression and the girl will be waiting for your call.

Freeze her out for a week, call her early next week and ask her out for during the week and something casual: i love mini golf works well. If she says she can't and doesn't offer another day, delete her number because she's not interested.




PIMP

 

[Chickfight]

Ok so I went to a dance last night, got this girl's number, and made out with her on the dancefloor...I started texting her today:

Me: Hey cutie
2 hours later
Me: Hey if Im not busy tomorrow do you wanna come bowling?
Her: Hey sorry I was at lax practice, and i cant im busy
Me: Ok well i dont think i can do anything today...come hang out fridday
Her: Cant in the musical and that is opening night, oh and i play a dancing *****/ stripper so yea

I'm thinking about what I want to do with this conversation. I know it's going badly because she blew off my 2 days for a date, but I'm not sure if I can do anything good with this...

Anybody offer some help?

Yeah, everyone's pretty much covered it. You really don't wan't to take a make at a party too seriously. There was a girl in my social circle back in HS who was a virgin, but when we went to parties she handed out make-outs like candy (including to me on two occasions). It doesn't mean jacksh!t to any girl that's been out a few times.

The best thing you can do when that happens and you're likely to run into the girl again in the future is not contact her at all. When you finally do run into her, don't even acknowledge what happened, just act normal and cool around her, somewhat aloof. The point is that you have to show that it meant even less to you as it did to her (which was very little). This will drive them crazy, IL will skyrocket and there you go.

My advice for you now is to not contact her at the then do what I wrote in the paragraph above. It may be too late though.

If it's someone you'll probably never see again, it's a lot harder. It doesn't happen a lot that girls start dating guys they met at clubs, whether they made out or had sex. Unless you built a great connection and comfort AS WELL AS attraction, which not the easiest thing to do in one night.

 

[BPH]

BPH: You got some good advice in this thread already. While I don't subscribe to all the "rules" that you will read on this site, one of the things you will learn over the years is how to make a KILLER first impression. Regardless of where you meet a chick, you want to really get her buying what your putting down on that first night. Once you get this, the rest is easy....

Meaning, it won't matter when you call, (2 days, 1 day, 3 days etc) to set up the next meeting. But that definitely comes with experience and maturity. The girls your dealing with are likely to be incredibly immature and like what they can't have.

The advice you got from Neghits is spot on.... You asked this chick out twice and she rejected both your offers and didn't counter offer. Not a good sign. Remember a drunk make out session doesn't really mean much if anything in these times.

Lastly, you never want to set up a date so far in advance unless you have:

a) already banged the girl

b) she has sky high interest in you

You run a high chance of getting flakes, "forgetting" etc when you set up a date so far in advance, which just really circles back to my main point; get good at making a killer first impression and the girl will be waiting for your call.

Freeze her out for a week, call her early next week and ask her out for during the week and something casual: i love mini golf works well. If she says she can't and doesn't offer another day, delete her number because she's not interested.

Why can't all people answer questions so specifically like this? +1

Nonetheless thanks to all of you guys for your input. I'll freeze her for a week then see what happens.

Also no she is not a girl from my school, so I won't be seeing her regularly if at all. Only reason I worried enough to post this is because I'm tired of having my virginity intact, and it doesn't help that my birthday is fast approaching.