Tests and disrespect

[Alpheta]

I don't know about you guys but I have a very low threshold for any type of disrespect. I might come across as a complete control freak but I really couldn't care because I do not like it. If you feel uncomfortable about something then you should make it clear.

A girl that I got with who is head over heels for me recently started saying stuff that she KNOWS I don't like. Yes it may be petty but I could just feel that she's testing me because it came out of nowhere.

"I'll slap you" "I'll smack you" she said to me in a jokey way. I went with the joke, picked her up and light threw her on the grass all the while laughing. All was good. However she started saying it over the phone. I let it slide. It became more and then I realised she is testing me. I can't let it slide. So I calmly told her that she can't speak to me like that. A joke is a joke but don't take it too far. She agreed and aplogised.

The next time I spoke to her I said something witty and she says it again. I couldn't just sit there. Yea sounds Petty but it was a test nonetheless. So again calmly I say to her that I don't like repeating myself and that once she decides and learns how to talk to me, she should ring. Said it was nice talking to her and goodbye.

I get missed calls and her apologising straight away but I don't plan to respond the whole week.

It may be petty but the way she brought it up suddenly made me feel it's a test.

 

[AttackFormation]

Spank that @ss. Seems like that's what she wants.

 

[dustmuffin]

Spank her...It's what she wants. She is pushing the boundaries. Give her some time let her initiate. If he happens again spank her.

 

[Alpheta]

Spank her...It's what she wants. She is pushing the boundaries. Give her some time let her initiate. If he happens again spank her.

I see her once every 2/3 weeks. I can't really do that while on the phone. She's blown my phone up since. Everything was really really good. She is head over heals for me. But this happens lol.

I'm just going to ignore her for a week

 

[AttackFormation]

I see her once every 2/3 weeks. I can't really do that while on the phone. She's blown my phone up since. Everything was really really good. She is head over heals for me. But this happens lol.

I'm just going to ignore her for a week

I don't know the context but I think you're overreacting nonsensically. So what if she does it over the phone? just say she won't get away with it etc. She'll giggle, it'll wetten her pvssy and anticipate the next time she sees you. Why are you taking her seriously? come on man. They do this because they want to have fun with you and they want you to put them in place.

 

[dustmuffin]

I see her once every 2/3 weeks. I can't really do that while on the phone. She's blown my phone up since. Everything was really really good. She is head over heals for me. But this happens lol.

I'm just going to ignore her for a week

I agree with attack formation. Play along and say she is in trouble etc. If she does it in person spank her. Make it a playful spank. Not hard. Gauge her reaction. I have spanked women hard like this. They kept coming back. Be confident.

 

[AttackFormation]

I agree with attack formation. Play along and say she is in trouble etc. If she does it in person spank her. Make it a playful spank. Not hard. Gauge her reaction. I have spanked women hard like this. They kept coming back. Be confident.

Yep. And don't have any boundaries about where you'll do it. When she does it in public and looks at you like you won't do it out there or even tells you what are you gonna do/etc., you lift your arm up and spank her ass hard.

Me and dustmuffin are both talking out of experience.

 

[Alpheta]

I agree with attack formation. Play along and say she is in trouble etc. If she does it in person spank her. Make it a playful spank. Not hard. Gauge her reaction. I have spanked women hard like this. They kept coming back. Be confident.

I don't know the context but I think you're overreacting nonsensically. So what if she does it over the phone? just say she won't get away with it etc. She'll giggle, it'll wetten her pvssy and anticipate the next time she sees you. Why are you taking her seriously? come on man. They do this because they want to have fun with you and they want you to put them in place.

yes but she knows from before that i dont like that chit. Suddenelyt she starts saying it again. The other day she puts me on loud speaker as her friend was there and says jokingly ' you act so hard over the phone but didnt do anything in person.........looks like i wear the pants in the relationship' she refers to when she said it to me and i just played along and just picked her up and threw her. She said it lollingly but she knows me well enough to know it irks me. I made it clear the other day so she agreed not to say it. Apologized infact. Now that she said it again, i didnt blow up i just said it calmly. Told her to rethink and learn how to talk to me. I dont like ppl talking to me like that in general anyway. Why should i change for her?

Anyways shes acknowledged that what she said was disrespectful.Shes apologised and called me but i aint picked up.

 

[AttackFormation]

yes but she knows from before that i dont like that chit. Suddenelyt she starts saying it again. The other day she puts me on loud speaker as her friend was there and says jokingly ' you act so hard over the phone but didnt do anything in person.........looks like i wear the pants in the relationship' she refers to when she said it to me and i just played along and just picked her up and threw her. She said it lollingly but she knows me well enough to know it irks me. I made it clear the other day so she agreed not to say it. Apologized infact. Now that she said it again, i didnt blow up i just said it calmly. Told her to rethink and learn how to talk to me. I dont like ppl talking to me like that in general anyway. Why should i change for her?

Anyways shes acknowledged that what she said was disrespectful.Shes apologised and called me but i aint picked up.

Get your head out of your @ss dude.

1) Why don't you like her being playful? you want to just be robots together?
2) She said that thing with the loudspeaker because she wants you to play with her and put her in her place playfully and hard. But you're slow to understand it so she has to really try to get the message into your head.
3) If you feel you "shouldn't change for her" then I agree, go get a boring, serious girl instead who you will be more compatible with.
4) She apologised because she realises you're too thick-headed, dull and take yourself too seriously to play with her and she's checking to see if you're actually gonna drop her over this.

You can still save it by just taking our advice here.

 

[Alpheta]

Get your head out of your @ss dude.

1) Why don't you like her being playful? you want to just be robots together?
2) She said that thing with the loudspeaker because she wants you to play with her and put her in her place playfully and hard. But you're slow to understand it so she has to really try to get the message into your head.
3) If you feel you "shouldn't change for her" then I agree, go get a boring, serious girl instead who you will be more compatible with.
4) She apologised because she realises you're too thick-headed and dull to play with her and she's checking to see if you're actually gonna drop her over this.

You can still save it by just taking our advice here.

okay, so how do i respond now? Shes texted me and called me i have ignored so clearly ive acted like im not happy. Her last text was this :

I’m sorry xyz. I do understand that what I said was wrong and disrespectful. I will call you in a few days if you would like. Im sorry sweetie. I dont want you to feel disrespected in any way. I do respect you. I am at fault I know. I just want you to know that i love you. If you want to speak to me sooner just message . Otherwise il message you soon .

(i told her to call me in a few days once she realises how to talk, she messaged and called but realised im not going to respond hence the above message.)

 

[Alpheta]

lol im getting mixed messages here. 2 people have said its good i called her out on it and 2 have said im overreacting. lol

 

[dustmuffin]

okay, so how do i respond now? Shes texted me and called me i have ignored so clearly ive acted like im not happy. Her last text was this :

I’m sorry xyz. I do understand that what I said was wrong and disrespectful. I will call you in a few days if you would like. Im sorry sweetie. I dont want you to feel disrespected in any way. I do respect you. I am at fault I know. I just want you to know that i love you. If you want to speak to me sooner just message . Otherwise il message you soon .

(i told her to call me in a few days once she realises how to talk, she messaged and called but realised im not going to respond hence the above message.)

Wait a few days....answer her call and pretend nothing happened. If she does it again on the phone tell her she is going to get a spanking. Next time you see her remind her of her transgression and spank her. It's not that hard. But you have to follow through on any threats. She will start to giggle. I get tired of the games women play. You have to get a mindset of enjoying it. That is where I am trying to be. Spank her and then it might lead to f ucking. Just be confident.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

While you guys are right in viewing this as a play thing, I understand Alpheta. I hate when girls do these games, like calling you names they know you hate or trying to hit you in the shoulder or whatever. I know they want to be teased when do this (unless they are aggresive), but I just plain hate it.

 

[dustmuffin]

lol im getting mixed messages here. 2 people have said its good i called her out on it and 2 have said im overreacting. lol

You have to react in the right way. There are consequences for her actions....a spanking. Or you can be all serious and pissed and next her.

 

[dustmuffin]

While you guys are right in viewing this as a play thing, I understand Alpheta. I hate when girls do these games, like calling you names they know you hate or trying to hit you in the shoulder or whatever. I know they want to be teased when do this (unless they are aggresive), but I just plain hate it.

Change your mindset. It can be fun. Women are children and like to play. If you dont give them that they will go where they can get it. Tease them, tickle them, play fight, wrestle and spank them. I am just pissed in general so I may not like it but I will do it to get some.
Make it fun.

 

[AttackFormation]

okay, so how do i respond now? Shes texted me and called me i have ignored so clearly ive acted like im not happy. Her last text was this :

I’m sorry xyz. I do understand that what I said was wrong and disrespectful. I will call you in a few days if you would like. Im sorry sweetie. I dont want you to feel disrespected in any way. I do respect you. I am at fault I know. I just want you to know that i love you. If you want to speak to me sooner just message . Otherwise il message you soon .

(i told her to call me in a few days once she realises how to talk, she messaged and called but realised im not going to respond hence the above message.)

Just pick up her next call and talk to her or respond to her next message. If she asks why you didn't answer before, act like a "loveable @sshole": say something like "what, you missed me?" and keep spinning it off if she keeps going on about it. She's being sincere in this message because like I said, she thinks you take yourself too seriously and are too boring/dull/slow to understand and want to play with her, and she doesn't want to lose you for attempting to have fun together and get her pvssy wet if you do what she hopes you do. If I were you I'd keep this advice in mind in general when it comes to your attitude with girls.

Listen to dustmuffin.

 

[Alpheta]

Just pick up her next call and talk to her or respond to her next message. If she asks why you didn't answer before, act like a "loveable @sshole": say something like "what, you missed me?" and keep spinning it off if she keeps going on about it. She's being sincere in this message because like I said, she thinks you take yourself too seriously and are too boring/dull/slow to understand and want to play with her, and she doesn't want to lose you for attempting to have fun together and get her pvssy wet if she does what she hopes you do. If I were you I'd keep this advice in mind in general when it comes to your attitude with girls.

Listen to dustmuffin.

You see, i always do it. I tease her etc and what not. Its just certain things my gut makes me feel uncomfortable. My mother never said stuff like that to my father so i guess thats why.

Thing is she KNOWS from a few months back that i dont like it. She stopped it. Then started and kept going when i let it slide. My gut tells me its a test. Why?Because there was no need for her to say it again today when just before i told her not to and she agreed.Not only did she agree butshe mentions that shes glad i pointed it out to her because now she knows and wants me to be open.lol

These are ground rules. Ive set them so going back on them surely makes me seem weak.

 

[AttackFormation]

You see, i always do it. I tease her etc and what not. Its just certain things my gut makes me feel uncomfortable. My mother never said stuff like that to my father so i guess thats why.

Thing is she KNOWS from a few months back that i dont like it. She stopped it. Then started and kept going when i let it slide. My gut tells me its a test. Why?Because there was no need for her to say it again today when just before i told her not to and she agreed. These are ground rules. Ive set them so going back on them surely makes me seem weak.

Well you fvcked up from the start by setting those rules but again you can still fix it by adopting a "women are children and like to play" attitude. It's your current attitude which is weak, the transition won't be because you're still "punishing" her for it symbolically and that's what she wanted from the start. When she started it again, it was because she couldn't put a lid on her drive to have a fun and masculine-feminine dynamic forever. Yes you put a stick up your @ss by having that attitude from the start, but you've gotta take it out unless you want it in there.

My mother never said anything to my father at all because they divorced after I was born, so what? You can't base your attitude on their relationship, that's for example how dysfunctional relationships seem normal to children who grow up with them.

Embrace the mindset that women are children and like to play.

 

[Alpheta]

Well you fvcked up from the start by setting those rules but again you can still fix it by adopting a "women are children and like to play" attitude. It's your current attitude which is weak, the transition won't be because you're still "punishing" her for it symbolically and that's what she wanted from the start. When she started it again, it was because she couldn't put a lid on her drive to have a fun and masculine-feminine dynamic forever. Yes you put a stick up your @ss by having that attitude from the start, but you've gotta take it out unless you want it in there.

My mother never said anything to my father at all because they divorced after I was born, so what? You can't base your attitude on their relationship, that's for example how dysfunctional relationships seem normal to children who grow up with them.

Embrace the mindset that women are children and like to play.

okay so next time she texts i dont open this topic up...Why is that?

 

[AttackFormation]

okay so next time she texts i dont open this topic up...Why is that?

She will bring it up. She will either just say the thing that "annoys" you again in which case you go right into saying she won't get away with it bla bla in a playful but hard tone, or she will ask if you're fine, in which case you say "yeah" and then she won't get away with it bla bla in a playful but hard tone. When she asks you "hihihi what are you gonna do?" you say you're gonna leave a red mark on her @ss from spanking her. All right? easy.