**** Testing or Just a Bad Attitude?

[Ratiocinative]

So I messaged this hottie online last week. We sent a few messages back and forth and she seemed pretty cool and easy going. Then when I asked for her number she asked to have mine instead so I gave it to her. Bad idea? Then she said good night.

I figured she wasn't interested. Then a few days later she sent me a message online at like 3:30am saying she hadn't forgotten about me? lol. I responded that night with a time a place for us to meet up later that weekend. A few days later she responded back saying she had to go out of town for work. No counter offer so I figured no interested and just told her to call me when she knows her schedule.

A few more days later, tonight, she texted me. I didn't try to make any small talk, just said hey and called her a nickname since she never told me her name, and said we should meetup Saturday. She just responded "it's Ashley". Not sure if she was upset with the nickname, but either way she ignored my question so I just ignored her.

Then an hour later she responded again, saying "oh btw I'm not looking for a hookup if that's what you're into". I didn't respond for several hours, then I joked about that not being what her tinted windows were for since she had made a joke about tinted windows in our first conversation. She replied back "no it's not" almost instantly before I could even finish putting my phone back in my pocket lol. Didn't say anything else since I already asked her out twice.

Anyway. Is this **** testing or does she just have a bad attitude? I've been trying to have more confidence and go for hotter women, but I don't have much experience yet. It his normal for a woman who is a 9 or 10? Would you guys have done anything differently? Seems to be her own issues, since I never even made any jokes about sex until she brought up hookups. Maybe that was a test to see it I was avoiding the topic?

 

[parkthebus]

She's coming back to you to feel good. You then feed her emotions by asking her out again. Just reply teasingly to whatever she says until she asks YOU out. If the conversation gets serious and you can't tease, don't respond.

 

[Fugitive]

She's not interested in you. Your just an ego boost for her.

Look at the facts, she was reluctant to give you her number and you asked her out twice and she hasn't accepted or counter offered.

You did the right thing by not replying to her last message. Don't say anything else to her. If she messages you ignore it. You should have the mentality of "I'm not going to waste my time with someone who can't even agree to a date". Forget her interest, right now YOUR interest in her should be zero.

 

[Tictac]

If she messages back, see if she'll agree to your idea of a date - time & place certain. If she does, meet her. If she doesn't, get off the phone, telling her to 'keep in touch'. If she reaches out again after that and does not suggest a meet, drop her and block her.

 

[dude99]

If she messages back then tell her thanks but no thanks. I'm looking for a girl with a sense of humor.

 

[RangerMIke]

How is it that you are messaging her and don't have her number, or know her name? Is this some kind of dating site?

IMO you are wasting your time with her. Try to make a date if she won't agree or counter, then move on. Women who are interested in you will try to see you. If she reaching out to you, go ahead and try to make a date. If she gives you any answer than yes or a legitimate counter-offer, then ignore her.

 

[El Payaso]

Attention wh0re. Stop responding to her.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I was just like you when I came here. Wasting time with online b*tches. Get out & meet them IRL. Learn how to socialize! It's fvcking easy once you get out there and do it. Just fuking do it dammit!