"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Testing me? You tell me

boogieman2188

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I met this girl via myspace a few weeks ago and we started talking on the phone and messaging the past few days.

She seems into me and I'm definitely into her. Today she asked "do u thnk it would be mean if i went out w/ one of ***'s (her ex-boyfriend) rlly good friends but its not to make him mad its jus cuz he's my friend"

Now this was a shock to me because she seems like she likes me.

Now I'm quite confused. Could she be testing me? Leading me on?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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500_W00P

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Play it cool. Tell a little white lie, like whenever she is suppose to go out with him fake like you just have these oh so magnificent god given plans and your going to have the time of your life(somewhere that there is going to be a ton of hot girls works better) "ironicly" the same day she goes out with the loser guy..
Then if her interest is high on you she'll be so busy wondering what you are getting your paws into theres no way she could have fun with that douche.
k thx
bye
 

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Don't act too attached. Play it cool and have an "I don't care attitude." You cannot show that you have become infatuated too easily, nor can you show any signs that you like her, because she will lose interest. Women like to know that they worked hard for what they got, make her work for it!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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500_W00P

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Don't show signs that you like her, thats all wrong. Don't listen to the guy /\.
Let her KNOW that you like her but don't do it with your words do it with your ACTIONS.. Manipulate her mind, whisper sweet nothings in her ear, tell her how you could look into her eyes all night,.. Tell her anything accept for the words.. I like you.

That my friend is input from a master of mind games
k thx
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Poonani Maker

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I've had a Young gal (one of many) come on to me recently, so today I showed interest in her in the midst of friends. Well, she stutters a little because she's nervous trying to impress. I start ignoring her because of her stuttering. This whole time I've recently talked to her (seen her for years just now talking to her) She must think that I think that she's an abject retard or moron. This must bother her to death that she can't turn my favor around to her.

Look, your attitude must be "what guy? who? I don't see him." Even if he's standing there before you and she asks/tests you by saying within earshot of the guy's friend that she wants to date him, you just stand there like hardened steel oblivious to what she's saying. Then you find your exit. You walk away. You always have one foot out the door and somewhere to go.

I'll show women interest (not a lot, just a little) and when she thinks she has me, even for a little bit, I'll take it away, avoid her, not talk to her, not being mean just no longer showing interest. Then later when she's close-by to me I'll show interest again, but then I'll take it away, take it away. Then a month later, I'll give it back to her. Then I'll take it away, take it away.

Never let them grab onto you.
 

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This is 100% a TEST.

If she really wanted to go out with whoever, she wouldn't take a second to tell you.

The reality is that she wanted to run it by you to see your reaction. If you react negatively (uh.. why are you going out with them?), she throws you into the category of a man who is easily stirred and jealous.

If you reactive positively (why would i care? no problem!) then you are thrown into a much better category of a man who is a man.

Women will test us to find weaknesses. In the beginning, it's to weed out unworthy men. In the long run, it's to find things that she can annoy you with. Once you get good at it, you should be able to see most of these tests from a mile away.
 

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Thanks WC2

I figured it was a test. And I reacted with a "I've been there and experienced that, and I'd say it's not a good decision" kind of answer. She understood.

Thanks again
 

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See, now that things are already done with, I always think of things that could have been said like you mentioned, but they're never there when they need to be said. :cuss:

But thank you, I will keep it in mind, and maybe next time I will remember this exact post and use something good. :up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AKA FLEX

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WC2 said:
This is 100% a TEST.

If she really wanted to go out with whoever, she wouldn't take a second to tell you.

The reality is that she wanted to run it by you to see your reaction. If you react negatively (uh.. why are you going out with them?), she throws you into the category of a man who is easily stirred and jealous.

If you reactive positively (why would i care? no problem!) then you are thrown into a much better category of a man who is a man.

Women will test us to find weaknesses. In the beginning, it's to weed out unworthy men. In the long run, it's to find things that she can annoy you with. Once you get good at it, you should be able to see most of these tests from a mile away.
Great post. Even I gained some insight in that last paragraph, and I've been at this s--- longer than just about anyone here.
 
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