"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tested out some new things: my findings.

mattyvv

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I have been a "nice guy" ever since i started dating back when I was 15 and where did it get me? No where. I finally realized that being JUST nice was not going to cut it after my girlfriend cheated on me with her ex right after we got back from the Bahamas on an all expense paid trip by yours truly. It was really hard to get over her, because I was really attracted to her sexually (mostly) and the fact that I still saw good in her, not anymore. I have finally realized that "women are the ****ing rake"- rounders.
I have treated them all perfect until now, girls dont want prince charming to do everything for them and never have problems. They want a nice mix of a bad boy and a sweet guy, I would venture and say 80%/20% in favor of bad boy, maybe even higher. So this past weekend I decided to test the waters, and see what would work and what would not work.

I still have not found a good mix, and maybe u guys can help me here but here goes.

I basically bashed every girl I came into contact with, while portraying the "I am the prize" look by looking and feeling confident. My boy came up this weekend, who you could say is a master don juan. He has hooked up with over 100 different girls over his illustrious college career, and now I know why after seeing him hug/kiss/makeout with probably 10 girls just yesterday. There is one moment that stands out of what he did the other day and told me. We were walking to get some food, whilst a little drunk, and we walked by a group of 3 girls, they diddent even say hi to us when we walked by. My friend with a loud voice said "You *****es aint ****". It was one of the funniest things I have heard. But it brings up a valid point- sometimes I think girls need to be braught down a peg. If they think they are hot ****, tell them they are not- this way they are looking for appreciation even more- this is where you come in. I did manage to get my drink spilled all over me by a girl who I told to "get the **** out of the way" when I was drunk, but ill chalk that up as a field injury. This weekend, I basically just neg'd every girl I came into contact with, never said hi to the girls I normally do, and surprisingly they all initiated the waves these past few days.

I am sorry for ranting, not even sure if this makes sense but it was on my mind- since I am still going through withdrawls because of my ex- speaking of which, is it even worth getting back at her? I feel like I was duped guys.. I am not a rich man but I spent maybe 1/2 my bank acct on her (most of which paid for the bahamas trip)

Any ideas? or should I just be the bigger man and leave it be?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Did she hold a gun to your head and force you to spend half your savings on her?

Just be a bigger man & leave it be. You did that to yourself, bro. Live and learn.

There's no need to be a jerk to attract women. In fact, it can drive a lot of good ones away, as I found out the hard way when I veered into jerk territory a bit.

It's the assertiveness and power that attracts, not the azzholism. Most jerks who do well with women are "hot" guys who are jerks because they can be. An average fellow is just seen as a jerk.
 

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hmm

so.... whats the best mix then, how do you carry yourself and act to have the best shot? and by the way, I dont want to sound ****y but I am 6'6 and play on the college b-ball team, im pretty decent looking too.
 
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