"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bitteorca

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Hi,

Been seeing this girl for a short time, seen her like 3 times. Everything is going well. She seems really into me (initiates a lot of kisses, texts me all the time, etc), and I like her as well. I think we get along really well.

However, when she's had a drink she might text me something a bit...soppy might be the right word. Things like 'i miss you'. It doesn't happen all the time, and I don't even see it as a problem as such, its kinda cute. However, my question, and/or concern is this:

Even though I think the pick-up artist community has a lot of good points, I don't agree with some of its main points. However, I have heard of girls 'testing' guys. I can see why people think girls may 'test', I think its happened to me before. What I want to know is, is the above a 'test'?! it's not what I've usually read as a 'test' on her (usually girls being *****es)...I have replied what I feel is somewhere in the middle. Not like 'omg i miss you as well' but not ignored it or anything. Just said I was looking forward to seeing her. Because I do look forward to seeing her, but not sure i 'miss' her as such. (whats the difference I hear you ask!). It's weird this is about texting, because I don't even think about the way I act infront of her, I'm just myself, which as far as I know, is going down well. Its just the texting!

I suppose this much thought comes from my last fling. I got the feeling that girl was playing games with me to 'test' me. I'm not saying she (or any other girl) intentionally 'tests', but I can see where the analogy comes from. Things are going great with this girl though, I think we get along well and she doesn't play games! I can't be bothered with a girl like that again, too mature for that! Should I just not think about stuff like this too much?! I am doing a night shift and I'm pretty bored, so got me thinking!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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IMO you're over-thinking this. Sure it *could* be a test but it's probably just because she's drunk and into you.

Just keep it playful...don't respond right away, send something short and sweet like "yeah well you won't be disappointed on (insert day) when we get together! ;) " Something like that.
 

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bitteorca said:
Hi,

Been seeing this girl for a short time, seen her like 3 times. Everything is going well. She seems really into me (initiates a lot of kisses, texts me all the time, etc), and I like her as well. I think we get along really well.

However, when she's had a drink she might text me something a bit...soppy might be the right word. Things like 'i miss you'. It doesn't happen all the time, and I don't even see it as a problem as such, its kinda cute. However, my question, and/or concern is this:

Even though I think the pick-up artist community has a lot of good points, I don't agree with some of its main points. However, I have heard of girls 'testing' guys. I can see why people think girls may 'test', I think its happened to me before. What I want to know is, is the above a 'test'?! it's not what I've usually read as a 'test' on her (usually girls being *****es)...I have replied what I feel is somewhere in the middle. Not like 'omg i miss you as well' but not ignored it or anything. Just said I was looking forward to seeing her. Because I do look forward to seeing her, but not sure i 'miss' her as such. (whats the difference I hear you ask!). It's weird this is about texting, because I don't even think about the way I act infront of her, I'm just myself, which as far as I know, is going down well. Its just the texting!

I suppose this much thought comes from my last fling. I got the feeling that girl was playing games with me to 'test' me. I'm not saying she (or any other girl) intentionally 'tests', but I can see where the analogy comes from. Things are going great with this girl though, I think we get along well and she doesn't play games! I can't be bothered with a girl like that again, too mature for that! Should I just not think about stuff like this too much?! I am doing a night shift and I'm pretty bored, so got me thinking!
It still may be a test for her attention seeking, or it may not.

Simple solution: Next time someone sends you an "I miss you" message Reply with: "Aww that's so cute! Now what are you going to do about that feeling? ;)"


Force her to ACT on it.
 

bitteorca

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Thanks for the advice guys. I've come to the conclusion that she's probably just a bit drunk and like ARrocket says, she's just into me. Not that I'm going to be a complete p*ssy about it anyway. so, in conclusion, it's all good!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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