"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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**** Test or should I just Next?

TheWolfMan

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I'm going to apologize a head of time for the long post, but it's kind of a long story, I've been more a less talking to this girl for a little less than a year. We hooked up at a party, she is a friend of one of my good buddies. Anyway we started hanging out a lot, we hooked up and I even had sex with her a couple times and just when we get to the point where we're practically dating. She pulls the whole "I need to take a step back...don't know what I want" BS. I was pretty hurt and it took me a while to get over it but I did I even spun a few plates and ended up ****ing one of them. I figured I would have never heard from her again. About two months or so after she pulled the "need some space" bs. She hits me up and it is clear that she wants to hang out. I said "No, ain't going to happen sweetheart. I actually grew a pair and I'm not dropping everything, just because you decide you want to hang out with me". I expressed that things were different now, and that I didn't feel the same way towards her. Despite that, she was persistent and I made the ultimate AFC move and started hanging out with her again. She recently moved into an apartment and i had been hanging out with her alot, hooking up, having sex etc. She has expressed multiple times that she doesn't want a relationship at all right now, which is fine with me since she pulled that **** last time. Anyway here's the main point about a month ago she got "sick" so we didn't hook up. I went over again and she was still "sick", no hooking up. So she finally texts me and says that she doens't want to do the physical/sexual **** anymore. She also said that if she hasn't felt stronger about me by now, than she probably won't and she pretty much threw me in the friendzone. Really? Wtf happened? I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around this, not like we haven't f@cked before. . Anyway I'm thinking A.) this is a **** test and she wants to see if i'll stick around without getting laid. B.)There is another guy in the picture and she doesn't want to hook up with me while she's f@cking this other guy. I want to point out that I'm currently spinning 2 other plates, but i have the most invested in this girl and I'd hate to just pull the plug. My plan is to go no contact for awhile, as I expressed to this girl that I'm not gonna be just "friends" with her. Just looking for some advice from you guys.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Renegade357

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Sorry dude, she never dug you to begin with. I'd say just enjoy being her yoyo and getting laid but you're obviously emotionally invested. Next.
 

TheWolfMan

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Haha yup you read me like a book, I am emotionally invested. I couldn't help it. I plan on just focusing on my other two plates, if this chick hits me up and wants to hook up then fine, but I'm not wasting my time. She even had the audacity to be like "Sucks to lose you from my life completely cause I don't want that". Just wants to dangle me around like a yoyo lol.
 
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