"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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**** test or just needy?

Big Eee Zee

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Hey all, this is my first need help post in a while. Disclaimer-i talk about adult things here, so dont read it if you dont like it.







Last night i got high. Really, really high. it was me and my three boys, the crew as it's called. You know, the kind of guys you would put your life in their hands. And my g/f came along, cause a bunch of her friends were supposed to show up and it was gonna be a big party. well, needless to say they didn't. so it was us and her mostly. Now she knows them, but not like well enough to have a good conversation, they're more like aquaintences. anyways, i was stoned and so were they, then we drank. Standard party routine. And we had fun, and spent most of the night just chillin and chatting

By the end of the night my g/f was pissed. I mean, she sat by herself on the couch (back at her place), barely kissed me goodbye etc. She wouldn't tell me why and i was too high to figure it out then.

Now, this is a g/f of almost 8 months. The night before last we had spectacular sex. And then last night she got all pissy.

I think it was cause i didn't pay her much attention. I spent most of the time being high and talking to my boys, i pretty much left her to herself. And i feel kinda bad, but i mean come on, what'd she expect? It coulda been something else, but i dont think it is.

So anyways, do you think she was testing me about something (at 8 months that would be ridiculous), or is she just a little needy and wanted my attention? I think she is, and so do my boys but i wanted a professional opinion.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Boner da Stoner

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I always think that at first, you attract the girl with your initial qualities, her "first impression" of you. I don't know if you've always been a slack ass who doesn't pay attention and act fun around her, or if it's a new trend. What I see from your girls perspective is a lack of intitiation and association. You aren't talking to her really, your chilling with your friends, and she feels left out. Especially when you say you've been with her for so and so long time, and she can "barely hold a conversation" with "the crew".

I never think **** tests are **** tests.. they are "prove your a man" tests, and sitting on your ass being stoned and drunk and not 'partying' is a show of you failing...
 

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no, this is a new thing. I kept telling her i didn't want to go get stoned around her cause this would happen and she was all like "but i want you to have fun etc..." so i did and this happened. Now i know what to do in the future, and im probably gonna apologize. Im not gonna be a little bit ch about it, but i really shoulda paid more attention to her.
 

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Originally posted by Big Eee Zee
no, this is a new thing. I kept telling her i didn't want to go get stoned around her cause this would happen and she was all like "but i want you to have fun etc..." so i did and this happened. Now i know what to do in the future, and im probably gonna apologize. Im not gonna be a little bit ch about it, but i really shoulda paid more attention to her.
Don't apologize. It doesn't help. Just spend some more time with her. Isolate her.
 
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