"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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**** test or just needy?

Big Eee Zee

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Hey all, this is my first need help post in a while. Disclaimer-i talk about adult things here, so dont read it if you dont like it.







Last night i got high. Really, really high. it was me and my three boys, the crew as it's called. You know, the kind of guys you would put your life in their hands. And my g/f came along, cause a bunch of her friends were supposed to show up and it was gonna be a big party. well, needless to say they didn't. so it was us and her mostly. Now she knows them, but not like well enough to have a good conversation, they're more like aquaintences. anyways, i was stoned and so were they, then we drank. Standard party routine. And we had fun, and spent most of the night just chillin and chatting

By the end of the night my g/f was pissed. I mean, she sat by herself on the couch (back at her place), barely kissed me goodbye etc. She wouldn't tell me why and i was too high to figure it out then.

Now, this is a g/f of almost 8 months. The night before last we had spectacular sex. And then last night she got all pissy.

I think it was cause i didn't pay her much attention. I spent most of the time being high and talking to my boys, i pretty much left her to herself. And i feel kinda bad, but i mean come on, what'd she expect? It coulda been something else, but i dont think it is.

So anyways, do you think she was testing me about something (at 8 months that would be ridiculous), or is she just a little needy and wanted my attention? I think she is, and so do my boys but i wanted a professional opinion.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Boner da Stoner

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I always think that at first, you attract the girl with your initial qualities, her "first impression" of you. I don't know if you've always been a slack ass who doesn't pay attention and act fun around her, or if it's a new trend. What I see from your girls perspective is a lack of intitiation and association. You aren't talking to her really, your chilling with your friends, and she feels left out. Especially when you say you've been with her for so and so long time, and she can "barely hold a conversation" with "the crew".

I never think **** tests are **** tests.. they are "prove your a man" tests, and sitting on your ass being stoned and drunk and not 'partying' is a show of you failing...
 

Big Eee Zee

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no, this is a new thing. I kept telling her i didn't want to go get stoned around her cause this would happen and she was all like "but i want you to have fun etc..." so i did and this happened. Now i know what to do in the future, and im probably gonna apologize. Im not gonna be a little bit ch about it, but i really shoulda paid more attention to her.
 

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Originally posted by Big Eee Zee
no, this is a new thing. I kept telling her i didn't want to go get stoned around her cause this would happen and she was all like "but i want you to have fun etc..." so i did and this happened. Now i know what to do in the future, and im probably gonna apologize. Im not gonna be a little bit ch about it, but i really shoulda paid more attention to her.
Don't apologize. It doesn't help. Just spend some more time with her. Isolate her.
 
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