NOTE: A work in progress, guys. I'll come back and add/edit as quickly as I can. 
After having had my mindset shift so much over the last year and a half or so (look up my other posts to read more about that), and then having come back to the forum, it has become a real eye opener into the mindset I once held vs. the one that has naturally taken root through my own personal references.
I've had quite a few people message me, wanting to know "my method". That answer has been difficult for me. I'm still piecing it together in a digestible way, seeing that it developed naturally. Perhaps, I'll make a .pdf or something, although I have absolutely no desire to become any sort of teacher or guru. There are plenty of people out there who are way better than me and have dedicated their life to teaching this stuff. However, if I can lend a helping hand to people, I'm all for it. Just be patient if you send a message.
Because of some of the things I've noticed, I thought I might throw down a bit of a quick primer for anyone who is interested.
Ten Seduction Principles I Live By:
#1: Seduction is an inside game first.
No matter how many methods you learn, no matter how many routines you study, it will not truly work unless you get your head right.
Do you know why routines sometimes work for men new in the field? Because it gets them to turn their heads off, to stop thinking, and start DOING. Also, so many men believe that they aren't good enough to get a girl (even though they never truly give it an honest, educated try) and therefore believe the lines other people come up for them to say.
You must believe that you are an interesting, passionate, attractive, and sexual individual and not be afraid to telegraph that in your presence. You must seduce yourself first..
#2: ABC & K's (Adventurous, Bold, Creative...and kinky)
One thing I have definitely learned over the last year and a half is that men who are actually doing this stuff spend about 90% LESS time thinking about it than those who aren't. Instead, they spend 60-70% of time actually doing the things that lead the results, and maybe 10% of the time thinking about things.
Take ACTION. Do it. Don't think, don't psyche yourself out. Just go. Get out into the world. Even failures there are better than never doing something out of fear. Which leads me to the point:
Be an adventurer. Do you know why many women want to be with a man like me (like I am now, anyway)? Because they want to "see what it's like". It's not pity, it's not because I'm rich and good looking and they just give it to me. No. It's because I represent something different, dramatic, taboo, sexual, and unique. They want an ADVENTURE. And so do I.
When I see a beautiful woman, I instantly start feeling that "it's on" in my body. I start to feel turned on and this informs me talking with her, teasing her, etc. There is a massive difference between doing these outward things while not turned on and while turned on. The women pick up on your state and, if she is at all interested, she'll join in with you.
It's about adventure. Have fun and explore. (That's how she probably sees it.)
Be bold.
Women always talk about how they want a man who "Knows what he wants and goes out and gets it." What a great clue as to what they want!
It might come as a surprise, but many attractive women are completely relieved that a man really "wants" her. I know it sounds ridiculous, because we constantly run into games, friendzone, etc.
What's the difference? Well, there are a lot of factors, but one of the biggest ones is that sexual men are bold. They let the women know that they are sexual creatures and that they see them sexually. They don't apologize for it. They let the women know that they are turned on by them.
This, in turn, turns a woman on incredibly. There is NOTHING sexier to a woman than a man whom she perceives as masculine and powerful who is being driven nearly crazy (notice I said "nearly", because a man is always in control, even if it's just by 1%) and wants to completely ravish her.
In my experience, women are ravenous for this. The desire it and want it so much. Yet, very few men actually have the balls to give it to them.
Be creative.
Women are aching for men to be more creative with them. I hear constantly about how boring men are. How predictable they are.
Why not take another approach? Find a way to bring out your unique inner qualities and put them at the forefront. Purposefully stand out from the crowd. Own it completely. Be about something that you are passionate about.
Be creative with not only how you live your life (as in creating the life you want), but also with your personality. You can craft how you present yourself, how you dress and groom yourself, how you respond to things..how you ACT.
As Joe Rogan wisely says "You know the guy you pretend to be when you are trying to get laid? Be that guy all the time." It's true. Figure out who that guy is...and become that guy. Suddenly, the random beautiful girl in the coffee shop sees a dashing and striking man about his purpose, instead of yet another low value guy trying to get her attention.
We all can be titans instead of little boys. Our creative ability and our willpower make it possible.
And...at last
Be (K)inky
Here's a few equations for you:
Cool, interesting guy + comfort building with girl = friendzone.
Cool, interesting guy + comfort building with girl + sexualization = sex.
This is amazingly important and so often over looked. We can't be afraid to be "kinky bastards". Honestly, do you love to **** women? I know I do. It's great. Do I love threesomes? Of ****ing course I do. They're great. Do I tell girls this? Absolutely. They laugh because I'm not creepy.
So here's some tricks:
1) Say it matter of factly. It's the truth and you don't really give a **** what her response is. She gets it or doesn't.
2) Don't say it directly about "her". (Well, yet, anyway.) Talk about "with girls" in generalization or about an "ex" you were once with. That's enough to get her imagining.
3) Once you've said that, then talk about how much you've learned about communication and being in relationships because of the experiences.
This says several things to the woman.
- You are fine and confident with who you are.
- You are experienced and know what you like. (Also, a ton of social proof.)
- You are intelligent and are in it for more than just sex with them.
As you talk about kinky stuff that you like, she'll open up more. She might say "I wouldn't know..." or talk to you about what she likes. Either way...****ing hot conversation. Let it ramp up.
At some point in the conversation, it actually becomes completely fine for you to say something like "Oh, you've never really been spanked? My god. I was watching you as you came in here and was thinking about how much I would love to spank you.." (I've done this ALOT of times. It works very well.)
* Another side of this. If the girl isn't in a space for a new sexual relationship with you, or has a boyfriend, she'll still usually have this conversation with you. Then, when she splits with him or is ready, she'll put herself into your "orbit" so she can see what it's like with you.
Be kinky. Sexualize yourself. Make sexual innuendo and jokes with women ALL THE TIME. It's very hard for a girl to friendzone you when she has imagined you spanking her bare ass.
After having had my mindset shift so much over the last year and a half or so (look up my other posts to read more about that), and then having come back to the forum, it has become a real eye opener into the mindset I once held vs. the one that has naturally taken root through my own personal references.
I've had quite a few people message me, wanting to know "my method". That answer has been difficult for me. I'm still piecing it together in a digestible way, seeing that it developed naturally. Perhaps, I'll make a .pdf or something, although I have absolutely no desire to become any sort of teacher or guru. There are plenty of people out there who are way better than me and have dedicated their life to teaching this stuff. However, if I can lend a helping hand to people, I'm all for it. Just be patient if you send a message.
Because of some of the things I've noticed, I thought I might throw down a bit of a quick primer for anyone who is interested.
Ten Seduction Principles I Live By:
#1: Seduction is an inside game first.
No matter how many methods you learn, no matter how many routines you study, it will not truly work unless you get your head right.
Do you know why routines sometimes work for men new in the field? Because it gets them to turn their heads off, to stop thinking, and start DOING. Also, so many men believe that they aren't good enough to get a girl (even though they never truly give it an honest, educated try) and therefore believe the lines other people come up for them to say.
You must believe that you are an interesting, passionate, attractive, and sexual individual and not be afraid to telegraph that in your presence. You must seduce yourself first..
#2: ABC & K's (Adventurous, Bold, Creative...and kinky)
One thing I have definitely learned over the last year and a half is that men who are actually doing this stuff spend about 90% LESS time thinking about it than those who aren't. Instead, they spend 60-70% of time actually doing the things that lead the results, and maybe 10% of the time thinking about things.
Take ACTION. Do it. Don't think, don't psyche yourself out. Just go. Get out into the world. Even failures there are better than never doing something out of fear. Which leads me to the point:
Be an adventurer. Do you know why many women want to be with a man like me (like I am now, anyway)? Because they want to "see what it's like". It's not pity, it's not because I'm rich and good looking and they just give it to me. No. It's because I represent something different, dramatic, taboo, sexual, and unique. They want an ADVENTURE. And so do I.
When I see a beautiful woman, I instantly start feeling that "it's on" in my body. I start to feel turned on and this informs me talking with her, teasing her, etc. There is a massive difference between doing these outward things while not turned on and while turned on. The women pick up on your state and, if she is at all interested, she'll join in with you.
It's about adventure. Have fun and explore. (That's how she probably sees it.)
Be bold.
Women always talk about how they want a man who "Knows what he wants and goes out and gets it." What a great clue as to what they want!
It might come as a surprise, but many attractive women are completely relieved that a man really "wants" her. I know it sounds ridiculous, because we constantly run into games, friendzone, etc.
What's the difference? Well, there are a lot of factors, but one of the biggest ones is that sexual men are bold. They let the women know that they are sexual creatures and that they see them sexually. They don't apologize for it. They let the women know that they are turned on by them.
This, in turn, turns a woman on incredibly. There is NOTHING sexier to a woman than a man whom she perceives as masculine and powerful who is being driven nearly crazy (notice I said "nearly", because a man is always in control, even if it's just by 1%) and wants to completely ravish her.
In my experience, women are ravenous for this. The desire it and want it so much. Yet, very few men actually have the balls to give it to them.
Be creative.
Women are aching for men to be more creative with them. I hear constantly about how boring men are. How predictable they are.
Why not take another approach? Find a way to bring out your unique inner qualities and put them at the forefront. Purposefully stand out from the crowd. Own it completely. Be about something that you are passionate about.
Be creative with not only how you live your life (as in creating the life you want), but also with your personality. You can craft how you present yourself, how you dress and groom yourself, how you respond to things..how you ACT.
As Joe Rogan wisely says "You know the guy you pretend to be when you are trying to get laid? Be that guy all the time." It's true. Figure out who that guy is...and become that guy. Suddenly, the random beautiful girl in the coffee shop sees a dashing and striking man about his purpose, instead of yet another low value guy trying to get her attention.
We all can be titans instead of little boys. Our creative ability and our willpower make it possible.
And...at last
Be (K)inky
Here's a few equations for you:
Cool, interesting guy + comfort building with girl = friendzone.
Cool, interesting guy + comfort building with girl + sexualization = sex.
This is amazingly important and so often over looked. We can't be afraid to be "kinky bastards". Honestly, do you love to **** women? I know I do. It's great. Do I love threesomes? Of ****ing course I do. They're great. Do I tell girls this? Absolutely. They laugh because I'm not creepy.
So here's some tricks:
1) Say it matter of factly. It's the truth and you don't really give a **** what her response is. She gets it or doesn't.
2) Don't say it directly about "her". (Well, yet, anyway.) Talk about "with girls" in generalization or about an "ex" you were once with. That's enough to get her imagining.
3) Once you've said that, then talk about how much you've learned about communication and being in relationships because of the experiences.
This says several things to the woman.
- You are fine and confident with who you are.
- You are experienced and know what you like. (Also, a ton of social proof.)
- You are intelligent and are in it for more than just sex with them.
As you talk about kinky stuff that you like, she'll open up more. She might say "I wouldn't know..." or talk to you about what she likes. Either way...****ing hot conversation. Let it ramp up.
At some point in the conversation, it actually becomes completely fine for you to say something like "Oh, you've never really been spanked? My god. I was watching you as you came in here and was thinking about how much I would love to spank you.." (I've done this ALOT of times. It works very well.)
* Another side of this. If the girl isn't in a space for a new sexual relationship with you, or has a boyfriend, she'll still usually have this conversation with you. Then, when she splits with him or is ready, she'll put herself into your "orbit" so she can see what it's like with you.
Be kinky. Sexualize yourself. Make sexual innuendo and jokes with women ALL THE TIME. It's very hard for a girl to friendzone you when she has imagined you spanking her bare ass.
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