telling the girl...

[sam3083]

Ok, so there was a girl who showed very high IL in me, however I was too scared/afc to act upon it.

Since becoming a RAFC, and tightening up my game alot, I have managed to get her IL's back up to where they were (very high!). Heres the problem, she now has a bf.

I have no moral issue in winning this girl back, becasue I truly believe I am better, and she should get the better option. Anyway, I asked (told) her to come on a walk with me, which she very willingly accepted (despite a quick scheduling change - i'll put the convo up if anyone wants to read it).

So, getting to the point. How do I tell her; I like her, I want her to dump her bf, and I'll be there to catch her again (without going afc). I am interested in this being a LTR, btw, not a ONS.

The catch seems to be that escalation can only occur so far, before its cheating, which I wouldn't want to happen. And that big proclomations of love, reek of desperation and afcness.

Come on, give me some advice on how to deliver this and win the damn girl!

 

[EFFORT]

Whats wrong with the rest of the girls on the planet?


The answer to your question here is to just to follow the same process you would with any other girl. Don't be needy, have fun, be normal, offer value, don't be outcome dependent (which you obvisouly are), isolate and escalate.

 

[Telos]

Take her for another walk (preferably just before sunset) and start talking about how you are probably never going to get into a serious relationship because you feel like any girl you meet would hold you back from the aggressive goals you have set for your future.

Keep accentuating the subliminal notion that "Relationship = Trapped"... and all the while be taking her somewhere spontaneous and secluded, maybe a path in the middle of the woods or an empty park.

Your goal should be to wrap her in the moment and escalate things physically with tons of kino and extended eye contact. At the point when you are both vibing off each-other's energy the most, you go in for the kiss. For best effect, dive in while she's in the middle of a sentence. From there you can go further and secure the deal with something sexual... but I wouldn't actually fvck her. You also need to set the bait. Keep playing it off like she's bad for you and tell her that she needs to stay away. Keep making advances but VERBALLY blame everything on her.

Here's the most important part: cut everything off completely in the middle of a moment of high sexual energy. This will set the stage for her to pursue you.

Once I ran this game on a HB8.5 at a party and at the end of the night I literally had her in her panties spread eagle on top of a pool table. I ate her out and backed off just before she came. I made it look like I was going to move forward and f*ck her brains out right there to relieve the pain... but I turned back at the last second after rubbing on her cli* a couple times and told her confidently that she wasn't getting any yet, followed by another quick make-out session.

She ended up leaving a LTR of two years in hopes of getting with me. I got an average of four calls a day from her after that night.