Telling Pickup Stories to Your Date

[Cashew]

If you were going to tell your date a recent story about someone trying to pick you up, which would you be more inclined to tell: A story about a girl who tries to pick you up or a story about a gay man who tries to pick you up? I don't care if you normally wouldn't do either or even if the story would be true. Assume for this that you would. And that the story is recent enough to believe that it is still a possiblity that this person can or still is pursuing you.


Girl Story
The whole social proof thing, and that other girls are attracted to or want you. that you are desirable. Also can make her jealous that some other girl might take you first. however the fact that you are the one telling the story may seem to her like less than a masculine move. You shouldn't have to try to prove social proof to her, you should be able to demonstrate it without saying a word or doing a thing.

Gay Man Story
The jealousy factor might not kick in so much if they know you aren't into guys. Though this story could potentially have a lot more humor in it while still demonstrating that you are desirable. It can therefore come off more as a story rather than you seeming like you are trying to prove something to her.


I told the gay man story to a girl I'm dating the other night, just as a comical story to tell without really thinking about it any other way. I sort of joked around that I'd call him back and whatnot and we both had a couple laughs before the conversation moved elsewhere. Like half an hour later there is a lull in the conversation and she breaks the silence by bringing it up saying "so that guy, you're not really going to call him are you?" Only she said it in about twenty times as many words. She seemed actually concerned that I might. So I busted on her a bit for that, joking with her that now she had some competition.

Which then got me thinking to the question I'm asking you all.

 

[Cassanova_Child]

If you were going to tell your date a recent story about someone trying to pick you up, which would you be more inclined to tell: A story about a girl who tries to pick you up or a story about a gay man who tries to pick you up? I don't care if you normally wouldn't do either or even if the story would be true. Assume for this that you would. And that the story is recent enough to believe that it is still a possiblity that this person can or still is pursuing you.


Girl Story
The whole social proof thing, and that other girls are attracted to or want you. that you are desirable. Also can make her jealous that some other girl might take you first. however the fact that you are the one telling the story may seem to her like less than a masculine move. You shouldn't have to try to prove social proof to her, you should be able to demonstrate it without saying a word or doing a thing.

Gay Man Story
The jealousy factor might not kick in so much if they know you aren't into guys. Though this story could potentially have a lot more humor in it while still demonstrating that you are desirable. It can therefore come off more as a story rather than you seeming like you are trying to prove something to her.


I told the gay man story to a girl I'm dating the other night, just as a comical story to tell without really thinking about it any other way. I sort of joked around that I'd call him back and whatnot and we both had a couple laughs before the conversation moved elsewhere. Like half an hour later there is a lull in the conversation and she breaks the silence by bringing it up saying "so that guy, you're not really going to call him are you?" Only she said it in about twenty times as many words. She seemed actually concerned that I might. So I busted on her a bit for that, joking with her that now she had some competition.

Which then got me thinking to the question I'm asking you all.

i always do the gay man story when i first meet a girl to break the ice(it works well cause i sorta peacock a little so i always have articles of clothing that a gay guy could think im gay from) and it works loads better than the girl story, which comes off just ****y, but not funny, which is just a major turnoff, to both men and women.

 

[The Sperminator]

Well I have a few times. It's good if you don't act ****y. Like I had a girl show no romantic interest into I started telling her stories about sex and so on. Usually though I tell them funny pickups I have done and got rejected by. Doesn't make you sound ****y bc you got turned down and it gets a laugh.

 

[Aragon034]

having actually been propositioned by gay men makes it all the easier for me to tell a story about it.

at a rave once i was told by some dude that he wanted my beard to tickle his balls :nervous:

Yeah, nothing sobers you up faster than that.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

When you use the girl approach, the key is to not sound like you are bragging.

Maybe when you are hanging out with a friend and her, casually bring it up. "Yea man, I remember that, she was nuts...all over me." Instead of "Yo, girls be all over me. They love me!" Also it's good to keep mystery...maybe she's asking you about this girl who commented your MySpace recently. She'll say something like "What's that another previous of yours? hehe" so you should tell her "well, ya know. she was cool..." then become silent. She'll assume you had sex and you could basically tell her, "well we did. twice actually. but that's in the past!"

It gets the message across that women do desire you (especially if she see's her on MySpace and she's attractive in her photos.) But you're not bragging about it, you're just honestly answering her question. Be sure to tell her "hey you brought it up!"

I had a girl that was in one of my classes and I told my girl about how we had to work a group project together. She automatically assumed that she wanted me, and I'd tell her "nah baby you know that aint my thing. don't worry bout it." Well, we'd see her a lot at parties and she was very friendly with me and she'd play with my hair and stuff, and this made my girl mad, yet more attracted to me. Of course I'd constantly have to assure her that she had nothing to worry about, but it reminds her that if things aren't going well you have plenty of other people to talk to.

The guy story is good to tell for what it is, especially because a lot of girls feel that a gay mans opinions are "correct" so if a gay man finds you attractive you must really be attractive.