Telling new girls about your other women? Advice plz

[JCB]

Hi all,

First thread and all that jazz. Have been on a mighty fine run recently: changed my style, upped my game and took loads more risks with positive results. However, this has led me to a small dilemma. I met a cool girl a few weeks ago at a club and had a great time with her. I stayed the night at her place and had a great time the following day drinking and frolicking etc. We arranged to meet up soon but we were both travelling abroad the next weekend so the communication went cold.

In the interim I met a friend of a friend who was staying for a week in my home town and we had a great week long fling, which has now ended due to her departure. I was going to let the first girl slide into one night stand territory but she text me at the weekend and we've arranged a date for tomorrow.

My issue is how do I break the news that I've been having a week long fling with someone else without looking like a player or some creepy lothario? The girl has written all over my FB wall so it looks kind of obvious that something has gone on. Should I opt for nonchalant honesty or denial and say the fling was just a week spent with a a close friend?

Ta guys.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

And exactly why, do you need to tell either one of them, or any new girls, about the other ones?

"Break the news"? Why is it such a big deal? Do you think those girls don't already have orbiters/FB's/players, that give them sex, and attention? Don't be naive. They have/had guys before you, during your fling, and will have after. No need to be telling anybody about the girls you are seeing. Why open a can of worms, specially if they are not asking you?

 

[Captain]

You don't have to say anything unless they ask (or you decide to become exclusive.)

 

[JCB]

And exactly why, do you need to tell either one of them, or any new girls, about the other ones?

"Break the news"? Why is it such a big deal? Do you think those girls don't already have orbiters/FB's/players, that give them sex, and attention? Don't be naive. They have/had guys before you, during your fling, and will have after. No need to be telling anybody about the girls you are seeing. Why open a can of worms, specially if they are not asking you?

Ja, I suppose so. I'm just imaging pulling an very guilty face when asked what I did last week/who I spent it with. I guess I'll just leave it be. Ta for the advice

 

[brekke]

I tell them, and it never hurts me. They might call me a jerk or weird or a-hole, but they do not really mind. I like normal girls though...not club sluts.

 

[SandHawk]

The girl I'm currently dating knew I was seeing other girls when we started seeing each other, but only because she knew about my dating habits. However, I never tell any of the girls I'm seeing that I am seeing other girls as well unless asked about my dating habits / if I'm seeing someone.

Why? Because it's my own life, and as long as there is no agreement that something is exclusive, I don't have to provide clarification for whatever the hell I chose to do.

The same applies to you: Don't tell her that anything happened with some other girl. You guys are not involved, so whatever you do is your call. If she asks about it, just tell her that a friend came over and things got out of hand. Tell the truth tho, maybe add that it doesn't change anything for what guys are doing.

 

[EFFORT]

The girl has written all over my FB wall so it looks kind of obvious that something has gone on.

I'd recommend not having a FB page. See your friends in person, or if there far from you talk over the phone to stay in the mix. Other than that having a Facebook/Myspace isn't making life easier for a guy (unless its a business promoting page)