I've read a lot of articles and posts on this site that say you should NEVER tell a chick you're interested or that she is hot. However, I have told girls these two things before and have experienced success. The reason it has worked is because as soon as I tell a chick I'm interested or she is hot, I completely back off. This causes the chick to wonder "what happened? He said he was interested(or, I'm hot) now he's not kissing my a$$. Did I do somthing wrong?". I just wanted to get some other opinions about this method.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Telling a girl you're "interested" or she is "hot".
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It all works on a case by case basic. It's ok to let a girl know that you're interested but just don't be a thirsty bastard about the whole thing. Women want to know that you find them attractive but just don't go brown-nosing about the whole thing. I'm surprised none of these other jackasses offered any input to your question. I thought this was a place where we HELP PEOPLE but I guess people are choosy and only want to help themselves.
Julius_Seizeher
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Just accept it as proof that the "Iron Laws" of PUA are not written in stone, and that it is damaging to try to squeeze yourself into compliance at all times with all directives.
I am an inner game guy, so my focus is always on where my mind is. Building a mental architecture takes work and time, but it is the only way. You come to see that the rules are indeed guidelines, and if your mind is right, they manifest themselves in your behavior anyway.
I am an inner game guy, so my focus is always on where my mind is. Building a mental architecture takes work and time, but it is the only way. You come to see that the rules are indeed guidelines, and if your mind is right, they manifest themselves in your behavior anyway.
zekko
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Fact is, there are guys out there straight up telling women they're interested every day, and it's working out for a lot of them. These are guys who have never heard of a pickup forum, I'm sure. If the girl likes him, she'll be pleased. It may not be the best way to go about things, but obviously with the right guy and the right girl it can work.
You're using a push-pull type of method - give interest then take it away. That's a pretty common tactic in pickup circles. You say you've had success with it. What happens next in your chain of events? I assume the girl starts to pursue you in some way.
everywomanshero
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everything works in the right context.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Yeah man. Although it may be that we need more experienced people. I for instance don't have anything good to say other than what you just said.S. Pryor said:
:moon: (thumb up butt) for those who don't want to help.I'm still relatively new to this site, so I don't know what you guys suggest as your openers, but I use things like Shark's "I like you, I want to get to know you better" or, "You're very beautiful" openers (it's not set in stone and I don't use it in a way that sounds canned) and I've had quite a bit of success with it.