Telling a girl you want to kiss her in the middle of an embrace... Yay or nay?

[allbeef]

Say I hug a girl, then pull my head back, call her to name to grab her attention and tell her something simple like: "Right now I really want to kiss you" or "I feel like kissing you". Would that be a good way to break the ice and get into kissing comfort zone?

Please note: I know already most of you guys will tell me to just go for it and kiss her instead of saying it. I wish I had the balls for that. Right now I don't, and I will either A) Freeze up, B) Hesitate so much that it'll make it very awkward or C) combination of both

I grind anytime my body comes up against anything. It is part of my inner self. I am basically a walking hard on so it is one of those little pleasures you get during an otherwise shi-- day. Also helps that I don't wear any underwear. The friction is a joy. I just have to be careful not to get too excited and mess up my expensive $300 pair of designer jeans.

Everything you do should be sexual. Rock those hips back and forth tonight when you brush your teeth. Touch your lips and rub your groin throughout the day. Don't make it obvious. Just a quick rub or gentle touching of the lips. The idea is to become sex. When chicks see you let them think sex.

 

[Shivastorm_88]

Alright, alright, I get it! I'll go directly for the kiss, no asking for it, and no chocking...

What's interesting is that (don't be offended guys!) even though what you were all saying is common sense, I always take advice I receive with a grain of salt, so I asked a female friend of mine her opinion on the matter... Here's what she said (almost verbatim):

"If you tell her you want to kiss her, it's like you're saying: "I want to kiss you but I want to know if it's fine with you"... Don't do that, it's weak, and she will most likely not respond positively. On the other side, if you kiss her directly, first she might not have time to realize what is happening, and actually will be responsive as a reflex, or because she wanted too, or second, she might not be responsive and might stop you, but I guarantee you she will have more respect than before just for the fact that you went after what you want... After all, you are a guy, it's your job to go after the woman and make the move."

It was like talking to someone from sosuave hahah

 

[Atom Smasher]

Yeah well maybe someday you'll learn to take our advice with more than a grain of salt and understand the value of our experience.

You need to be very careful about asking women for advice. You don't ask a fish how to catch a fish. You ask a fisherman.

 

[Ice882]

Yeah well maybe someday you'll learn to take our advice with more than a grain of salt and understand the value of our experience.

You need to be very careful about asking women for advice. You don't ask a fish how to catch a fish. You ask a fisherman.

Except the fish was right...

 

[Huffman]

Yeah some fish like to be caught

 

[AngloAlias]

Say I hug a girl, then pull my head back, call her to name to grab her attention and tell her something simple like: "Right now I really want to kiss you" or "I feel like kissing you". Would that be a good way to break the ice and get into kissing comfort zone?

Please note: I know already most of you guys will tell me to just go for it and kiss her instead of saying it. I wish I had the balls for that. Right now I don't, and I will either A) Freeze up, B) Hesitate so much that it'll make it very awkward or C) combination of both

Sorry to echo others but asking definitely kills the vibe. It should be obvious to you if the situation is right and if she is expecting and about to reciprocate. If the situation isn't right then leave it. It;s not always appropriate.

 

[Shivastorm_88]

Alright well I went for it, I didn't say her I wanted to... It still did not happened (sorta "dodged" the kiss and said she wouldn't kiss me) but whatever, I'm actually happy that I managed to go through with it. It wasn't easy, I have to admit, but I went through with it.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Good for you for being bold and going through with it.

Personally I always bide my time and set the stage for a can't fail-kiss. It's SO easy to tell when the buying signal appears. If you don't see the buying signal, you are almost certainly going to fail.

As I mentioned above, the signal is that she looks up and down from your eyes to your lips. If she is looking at your lips, you are golden and your kiss will be received gladly and eagerly. Why try to eat a good steak when it's not done? I throw it on the grill and let it cook for the necessary amount of time, checking it until I see the signs that it's ready to touch my lips with all its juicy goodness.

 

[Huffman]

Good for you man. You've proven to yourself that you have the balls.
Now get to work on the finer details. You want to set her up so she feels comfortable before the kiss. Not by asking, but kino and escalation.

Ideally, you're already sitting next to each other, your sides touching, your arm maybe around her. Get to that point and the kiss is a breeze.
You cant go from 0(walking at a distance) to 100(kiss+intimacy) in an instant, she'll feel threatened.
Instead, gradually reduce the distance and increase the comfort over the course of the evening. Step by step. Once this distance is gone, so will be her will to resist.