"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Telling a girl you like maybe we should just be friends

direstraits18

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I remember a couple years ago I was just starting to date a girl and she was running hot and cold and I started to chase more. one thing I did that made her do a 180 was say "Hey maybe we should just be friends, I dont know if we work together or not" this drove her crazy and made her literally run to me. I am thinking about using this tactic on this new girl, we only went on one date but this girl is kind of smart. I'm not sure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's a disqualifier you can use sure, like "bla bla but it's a pitty you're not my type"
 

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Yes I have done this. It drives them crazy because you are saying you are not sexually attracted to them and they don't like that.
 

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I guess I could post this here although I have a separate topic

So went on a date with this girl, it went well. she traveled for a bit and we texted back and forth for the couple days she was there, sometimes me, sometimes her would initiate contact. here is our recent conversation via text

-I just landed, my whole life hurts(she went to do a marathon) I look like the tin man at the moment thats how stiff I am

- I'd rather have you be dorothy I bet you'd look cute in the red shoes

- Maybe one day, just not today or tomorrow or the next day

-alright well better or no date #2

- Maybe this week, if we got time. today would have been perfect, i'll figure something out

- I know but I literally am a mess, I wouldnt have been any fun

I ended up just replying "Yah"


Ended up saying " class got canceled, lets get a drink tonight"

She replies fast saying "I wish I could :/ I'm sorry this week is crazy. I need to get home tonight to pack. I move into my new place Friday and Saturday. "
 
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