Telling a girl shes hot?

[SexinEar]

Sometimes I do this by accident or not even and I have the feeling I shouldn't. Is that a huge afc mistake or no.

 

[Remulak]

Complimenting a woman on her looks is pretty cliche. Chances are if she is hot she's heard it 500 million times.

 

[Doggystyle]

high self esteem girl then no

low self esteem girl then its ok

 

[SexinEar]

What if she hasent heard it 5oo million times, does it make you look like a loser and kill your chance?
edit-nvrmnd it was answered.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Nothing wrong with a simple compliment, as long as you do these three things:

1. Mean it. Don't flatter her just to get in her pants.
2. Keep it short and sweet. No need to serenade her about her beauty. She DOES look in the mirror you know.
3. Do it sparingly. A flood of compliments just tells her you're needy and desperate.

As long as you keep those in mind, don't worry about a compliment making or breaking your game. If that's all it takes to screw you over anyway, maybe you should work on some stuff...

 

[skip2mylou781]

OMG all u afcs, stop with ur "advice" PLEASE.......if u go up to a gorgeous girl and tell her with confidence that u think shes GORGEOUS (with sexual eye contact), she will EAT U UP WITH A SPOON......girls like that hate itwhen losers tell them they r hot, but they love a suave confident guy who does the same.....its the same as if ur a guy and a fat average girl tells u ur hot and then a sexy *****y girl tells u ur HOT.....we eat that shyt up!

gotell all the bytches they r beautiful/gorgeous but say it with a confident sexual look in ur eyes!

 

[IsiMan84]

I agree a little bit with skip2mylou781 on that one. When it comes to anything regarding women, I usually ask myself if it would work if somebody like Brad Pitt tried it (with all celebrity status aside). If my answer is yes, then I know there's always a chance it will work. So I came to the conclusion that if you do shít right and also look good then it will probably work out for the better.

And this also works both ways. I could picture Brad Pitt saying some really really cheesy line and having it not work.

 

[AngelusPUA]

If you are a charming, confident man complementing her it's great, if you are an AFC you will come off as insecure. Complementing is great it makes the woman instantly feel comfortable with you, you just have to do it right......


Compliment do not flatter

The difference between a compliment and flattery is that compliments have no hidden agenda, it’s just a genuine compliment and it doesn’t make the person feel uncomfortable. Do not compliment somebody unless you really mean it, women especially have a good radar for bullsh*t. Another dating mistake guys make is over complimenting, you come off as fake and desperate, give the girl one sincere compliment and don’t make a big deal of it. Remember to make it sincere and be selfless you are not complementing to get her into bed or to get a complement in return, you are doing it because you appreciate her.

How to compliment

Notice the details

Every now and then, just stop and notice the details, take a look at what you think she put special effort into and mentally take note of it.


Why?

A woman’s looks are her main display of her femininity, so it makes sense to make her feel good about herself by complimenting on it right?

Encourage her femininity by making a comment if she has made a special effort to look good for you. The key is to notice a specific detail you don’t want to come out with the cliché “you look beautiful tonight” it can work but it is cliché. Women love a guy who takes notice; it makes her feel like her effort was worthwhile. She didn’t spend one hour doing her hair for herself, she spent that hour for you so let her know you appreciate it.

Important thing to remember

-Be sincere: If you want to make a compliment make sure you mean it

-Be selfless: Don’t compliment her because you want something in return (sex etc). Compliment her because you truly want to compliment her.

-Don’t over compliment: Compliment her only once, don’t be the guy that worships her be the guy that she worships.

Example

For this example we will assume she put special effort into her hair style.

You: You look good tonight (if she has put some effort into her hair style) I like what you’ve done with your hair.

Rules of thumb

-Use eye contact.
-Smile.
-Be sincere. I know I’m repeating myself but it's important
-Touch her shoulder while you say it.
-Don't just say it the second you see her make sure she knows you took the time to notice the details.
-Don't make it a Neg.
-Be selfless don't do it jsut to get into her pants.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Angelus, you make very long posts that I always agree with:cheer:

 

[MightyMate]

When You approach a girl like by driving her home, and You tell her she has hopt body and then You like grab her tits. ****s workin on all girls that let You drive em home. You know what to do then right?
Saying to various girl in club or so, wont work. Only trouble and rejection.

 

[Manonamission]

I stay away from the term "hot" if you're going to make such a bold compliment, stay away from hot. In fact I've discovered that using the word "cute" sometimes bothers them, especially if they're really hot. If you come up to a hot chick, convo her and then drop the, "ya know, you're kinda cute" they usually respond with "just cute?" b/c they're used to hearing the word "hot"

Just my 2 cents.

 

[AngelusPUA]

Thanks man, I like your posts to "ralphie has a girlfriend why shouldn't you?" you wrote that right?

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Thanks man, I like your posts to "ralphie has a girlfriend why shouldn't you?" you wrote that right?

yeah that was me.... if he has a girl ANYTHING is possible, even gravity boots that can be built at home for 19.99.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Damn Angelus.... you're post sounds vaguely familiar.... hmm... OH! ITS MY POST, BUT BETTER! lol, no worries bro, you just expanded on it.

 

[AngelusPUA]

I actually made that post 2 weeks ago, I just recycled it and added a few things.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105418&highlight=compliment

And I added part of another post I made.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105396

So yeh didn't copy.

 

[Luveno]

It only works if you're congruent enough to say:

"You're hot, for a ___________"

Makes her doubt not only her own appearance, but also her place in the social order. Works like a charm.

I should sell this stuff, because its valuable.

 

[KoalaKing]

I always compliment every gorgeous girl that I meet on their physical beauty, but I only do it once, the first time that I approach them, it makes them know what I think about them immediately, then I can find out by their body language if they are attracted to me or not, but if you say it more than once it usually backfires on you as they will see you as being a loser wuss or obsessive male. :yes:

 

[AngelusPUA]

It only works if you're congruent enough to say:

"You're hot, for a ___________"

Makes her doubt not only her own appearance, but also her place in the social order. Works like a charm.

I should sell this stuff, because its valuable.

No that’s a neg, you shouldn’t do that it's a totally different thing to a compliment. You can sue Negs but we are talking about compliments.

 

[Luveno]

I only give compliments to people I know will appreciate them.

Friends, family members, girls I've been dating for a few months. They get sincere compliments.

It's as easy as: "You look good tonight." Case closed. Simple and to the point.

But if its a girl you just met, you have to pile on the negs.

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

Compliments can be a great tool when used correctly.Usually it could be a turning point from fluff talk to emotional discussion.I detest general compliments though like "you're beautiful/hot etc" because really they are boring and as mentioned she heard them a thousand times.As said by a previous poster watch the details and USE your own compliment to escalate to kino or whatever,for example "wow you have really smooth skin" and then proceed to touch her arm, "your hair looks so soft" and then play a bit with her hair "your eyes are so (long pause) mysterious/enchanting/fascinating" and proceed to intense EC.