Tell me I'm right... !

[RussianRocket]

Last night I went to this party... I hooked up with this girl that was next to my locker all year... we hadn't talked much previously that year but I knew she liked me and wanted to f*ck me at every sight.

So anyway, we start talkin, next to the pool, she's getting kinda drunk and start kneeling on me, asks for a massage, etc.

A few minutes later, she gets up and goes sit on the pavement walk next to the street, in front of the house.

I get up and go see her a few minutes later to see if she's okay... she says she's feeling kind of wierd, so she lies down, I lie down next to her. So we watch the sky, talk about stars and ****.

She starts getting closer to me, we hold hands and I start rubbing her leg gently.

Anyway, a few minutes later we start making out behind the bush, this goes on for a couple of hours. Nothing special, just dry humping (how lame, eh?) and partial nudity. I knew she was drunk so she kinda laughingly says "you're taking advantage of me, you bastard" I said "yeah, I know."

So I start telling her, you're going to regret this, right? She says "no way". Anyway, it starts getting late and we agree on the fact that since she's drunk, we shouldnt go any further, so I tell her I gotta go, and I can bring her back to the house.

She starts telling me that she loves me and that I have to stay with her... you know, really pulling me the **** down back on the grass to keep on making out, I tell her it's late and she should get going back in the house, but she still refuses and procrastinates, until I pull her up and tell her I'll get in touch with her later that week... so I put my shirt back on.. while we walk she puts her hand in my pants... blah...

Next thing I know, I'm back home and my buddy who stayed there told me the next day that the girl felt wierd after she got a bit more sober...

she told him (talking about me) "I feel wierd.. I kissed him"

And then "he took advantage of me, I can't believe it"

Now, my fellow DJs, did I do anything wrong here ? Should I stand proud behind what I did or should I sit down, and reconsider things. I don't even know what the **** to think now.

Cheers.

 

[Six-String Samurai]

This is why girls are evil and crazy.

 

[SOLDIERM16]

You are no only RIGHT, you are the MAN! What makes you the freakin man is that you had the sense enough to respect this woman even though u could have totally gotten laid. U had self control. And that is the hardest thing to be in control of.

The girl on the otherhand, is a nutcase. She says she loves u after makin out with you for the first time (big honkin red flag with buzzers and lights flashing). She is just tryin to justify the fact that she totally threw herself at u but u were unfazed and im sure the only reason why she felt weird is cuz u turned her down. But i have a strong feelin that she is thinking about you this very second.

So there are two things u can do about this... either see her again, or drop her. Sadly, i suggest dropping her, cuz if she says she loves u, and then says u took advantage of her... She is more likely one of those girls that gets obsessive, till she realizes she cant have u and then tries to ruin u.. fatal attraction style...

but then again, those fatal attraction style girls are freaks! and will rock your world! hahahaha....

play on brother!

 

[Dirtheart]

Here's what you should have said when she started hitting on you:

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"Please do not take offence at my refusal to kiss you or at what I am about to say as I only have your interests at heart. However, I believe that you are a little inebriated and cannot rationalize your decisions correctly. Please allow me to pay for a taxi to take you home where you will be safe from all the leches and perverts who desire to taint your innocence." Then you should have escorted her to the taxi and tipped the driver to ensure that she reached home safely.
[/sarcasm]

Seriously, she has absolutely no right to say that, especially to other people. First of all, if she couldn't handle her drink, she shouldn't drink. Secondly, she led you on without regard for you, and thirdly, she is giving you a bad name to other people for something she did!

If I was in your position, I would call her on this and tell her I do not appreciate what she has been saying behind my back. She has no excuse and she owes you an apology!

Don't you dare apologise to her or admit to being wrong!!! Providing your post tells it as it is, you were a gentleman and that's more than she deserves.

 

[Hollowpoint]

Excellent responses.

Total respect to you for doing what you did. No respect to the lying b1tch

 

[SOLDIERM16]

Dirtheart done said it and i agree. Being a gentleman was more than she deserves... But just cuz she dont deserve it doesnt mean u should lower urself u know?

But hes right about giving u a bad name. I didnt think about that. WHich i should have.

 

[JT47319]

You will soon realize that if you go to clubs and bars, you can make out with as many girls as you want (whether sober or not), but you'll still end up with Buyer's Remorse and a total flake out. This is a NATURAL REACTION. Thankfully, there is a solution (Credit Mystery).

A fun thing to do that will hopefully eliminate this is when kissing or making out, push her away and say, "We shouldn't be doing this." This will also increase your attraction because you're showing that you can control yourself. Proceed to make out later after maybe running deeper rapport conversation.

What you are doing is showing that she just can't HAVE you (ie you are not a slut which means she is not a slut) as well as undermining her ASD by alleviating any guilt that she has about making out & fycking. Ergo it becomes a GUILTLESS INTERACTION.

 

[Dirtheart]

But just cuz she dont deserve it doesnt mean u should lower urself u know?

I totally agree with that. He certainly shouldn't lower himself, but she should have respected him for it.

And I very much agree with JT's post here. Restraint is one of the most effective seduction techniques I've ever tried. It also keeps her wondering "does he like me?"

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by JT47319


A fun thing to do that will hopefully eliminate this is when kissing or making out, push her away and say, "We shouldn't be doing this." This will also increase your attraction because you're showing that you can control yourself. Proceed to make out later after maybe running deeper rapport conversation.

What you are doing is showing that she just can't HAVE you (ie you are not a slut which means she is not a slut) as well as undermining her ASD by alleviating any guilt that she has about making out & fycking. Ergo it becomes a GUILTLESS INTERACTION.

I like that alot! Nice.

 

[blienk]

You're fine dude, this is just another form of anti-slut defense.

The truth is, the girl probably doesn't regret it in the least - she just doesn't want to get a bad rep so she throws the blame on you instead.

 

[JustDoItAlways]

You will find it extremely hard to get with this girl again.

Whenever you reject a chick's blatant sexual advances like this, no matter how drunk they are, they take it very personally and will likely pre-reject you in advance of the next time.

Respecting her (or the fact that she is drunk) or trying to show her that you "respect" her as a person and would rather wait for sex between you might be the moral thing to do, but it is almost always the wrong DJ thing to do.

She feels "wierd" because she put herself out there and believes you rejected her. Will be hard to get another chance.

 

[SOLDIERM16]

good point. justdoitalways. I cant tell you how many times i shrugged off a girls advances in the first five minutes of knowing her, and when i finally came around later on in that night, she had already had eyes on someone else. Some girls are so whorish they are just lookin to screw anyone... so even though u may not be able to hook up with her again. U probably wouldnt want to.